Dad uses facebook to teach daughter lesson

One lesson the dad is teaching his daughter is unsafe gun usage since shooting a gun at home or outsideis not safe in many cases.

He should of just sold the laptop to someone who needed a cheap laptop for school instead of shooting it since it is not very environmentally friendly, and another child or adult could of use the laptop for good use like taking online courses at a college.

Plus, it is not a good idea to shoot a gun in public since I see some cars driving by his house in the background since if he miss fire his gun, and hit one of the passing cars, or people walking by then the person he shot by accident would be injured or dead... People should shot guns at a shooting range, and not in public, or at home.

Shooting in public could get himself dead or injured by the police or a citizen with a gun if a police officer or neighbor saw someone randomly shooting in public.

People might call the police since people might think a shooting is happening.
 
Well you completely missed the point he was trying ot make.

Also, being pro-gun myself I could argue what you said, but I won't because it will just be a waste of time.

But I'm happy to see your opinion.
 
The father has a responsibility to the daughter. I'm sure he would have dealt with it completely differently if he were brought up differently, in a different country, and in a different time period.

He alludes to his upbringing, well, mate, deal with it. No one really cares if he had to work when he was her age or whatnot. Times have changed and he's still living in the past, and I'm sure if back then there was Facebook, the internet etc. and different social norms, he probably would have acted the same way.

Sure the daughter has a responsibility, and quite stupid seeing as her father allegedly works in IT, but that's beside the point. She's being brought up in the 21st century, with differently social norms and customs. Quite frankly, the western world has grown to accept phrases like "son of a bitch" to be common language, and it's increasingly being accepted that words used like "shit" are really just the language of today. Again, he's living in the past, using his own experiences to deal with a modern matter.

Now, let's say the laptop was useful towards study. He's just depriving her potential to study. Sure one could argue, well, she's just using it for Facebook etc., but I'm sure no one is on Facebook 24/7, literally. If she is depriving herself of an education, then that's her issue, but it doesn't appear so.

Again, the reaction towards her response to chores is out of line. He's again alluding to his own youth and times have changed. In fact, he's using the term "cleaning lady" in a condescending way, by the inference that he categorises that to be bad or misleading. But besides that, ok, she rants on wanting/needing to be paid for chores, but the response by the father to shoot a laptop is not appropriate. Again, times have changed, it's the way he has brought her up which has led to this occurrence. I suspect many teens complain about chores not because of the time it takes, but because of the repetitiveness of actions which they have probably never done before. Let's face it, it's most likely boring. But this isn't the daughter's fault, much rather the way she has been brought up. When there is reward for a completion of a task, there is motivation. I doubt the father has the mental capacity to understand that, again, because he's trapped in his past.

But back to the main point. The father has a responsibility to their child, no matter how good or bad. He should be lucky. There are numerous teens out there doing drugs, alcohol, dying, etc. I know we haven't heard much or that we don't know too much context, but I doubt it's that bad, and the pinnacle in a rant on Facebook. She's still alive, and that's what really matters at the end of the day. Change something, and this dramatic, she's going to have a thousand thoughts running through her head, and that is what is going to get her killed or put in jailed, or something left-field.

I mean, she's only a teenager. How can you blame her, when it's the way he has brought her up, which has lead to certain actions. I'm sure every family is screwed up someway, whether very small or very big, but there are plenty of ways to deal with a Facebook rant than shooting a laptop and whatnot. Maybe taking the laptop away for a period of time may be a slightly better resolution. Maybe talking to her in a rational manner (I suspect he's abusive and hard to approach) would make her understand.

Then someone could raise the point/argument that it's only a laptop. Well, I'm sure public humiliation, the mental intent of using the weapon in a dangerous manner (he says to put in a bullet for her mum), and the childishness of the way he attempts to reason out his actions, and the complete overreaction to what appears to be a common rant (again, I'm sure every family is screwed up in someway or another). He should stop expecting to be the king of the world and start realising times have changed and ways of dealing with things have changed.

I could go on all day, but it's not like what I say will make a difference 🙂
 
This reminds me of when dad got mad at me for working on my company and threatened to beat all my computers apart with a hammer.

Why do parents think that destroying computers is a great idea to punish kids? Selling them is harsh, but destroying them is just stupid.
 
Some parents can really get confused with the truth. My dad is the same. He says he only asks me to do some things for him when he ends up treating me like crap and asking me to do a lot more than we agreed on.

This guy may have some anger disorder or something. He may have damaged her daughter for life. How is she going to feel after being embarrassed in front of so many people, and seeing her dad can be that violent? He took it way too far.

My condolences to the girl 😛
 
Who paid for the computer? Him.

It sounds like it wasn't new this kind of conflict. It would be the same sell it, give it away, or whatever... the point is that the girl is taking for granted and complaining for what the father considered too little of a reason.

While I don't like the idea of putting bullets on it to drive the point, I don't feel it is as bas as other people think it is. If my dad could afford things probably he would had destroyed stuff in the blinding rage, what is quite uncommon for me is his cold head for it. He decided to go with his word and it shows taht as much disappointed he is, he had time to 'cool' down and simply decided taht it was the best way to show her.

Face to face would be better... not the bullets, I mean the talk, all what he answer before shooting the machine.
 
froggyboy604 said:
One lesson the dad is teaching his daughter is unsafe gun usage since shooting a gun at home or outsideis not safe in many cases.

Plus, it is not a good idea to shoot a gun in public since I see some cars driving by his house in the background since if he miss fire his gun, and hit one of the passing cars, or people walking by then the person he shot by accident would be injured or dead... People should shot guns at a shooting range, and not in public, or at home.

Shooting in public could get himself dead or injured by the police or a citizen with a gun if a police officer or neighbor saw someone randomly shooting in public.

People might call the police since people might think a shooting is happening.
Wat? I feel like I'm watching CNN. :lol:
 
Kaynil said:
Who paid for the computer? Him.
So what? The father has a responsibility to the child, to give them the best education or social life as possible, so the child can be as open minded and willing to make their own decisions about their future. Let's face it, it's the 21st century now.
 
DavidL said:
it's the 21st century now.
So what... does that imply? That taking away the computer he paid for from her as a way of punishment should not longer apply? He did not harm her and the girl and him got to talk alright and solve e the differences in a civilized manner. I don't see how it is different to my father punishing me the way he said he would when I misbehave deliberately.

The girl was talking trash on them by cowardly posting a letter in Facebook confident they wouldn't see it, instead of talking it directly. I think it would had been better if both talked it directly. But I am not arguing what could be better, simply taht don't see it as the big 'ape for the past century' many seem to.

I don't care about the laptop, what sucks is the information she may had stored there. That is what would make me angry if it was my situation. That and the lack of respect, he may bought the computer but she was still the user and owner. However as a teenager you take for granted they would never get to do that kind of things, no matter how much pops or mum insist and threat "next time I will throw your computer to the floor" and such. He did warn her she would lose it next time she did that kind of thing and well, she didn't listen so he decided to fulfill his word and that she could have to use her own means, like getting a job instead of expecting daddy to pay for everything even the few chores assigned to her... She just sounded too spoiled to me, I can't see her as the dull victim.

I by no means I am applauding his actions. but what do we know really know about them? I can't hardly say if the education is good or not, but given the same daughter replied and made amends with his fathers sounds to me like there is way more communication than what we give it credit.

That aside I find it just as childish to mark your superior rank by shooting your daughter's laptop instead of trying to understand WHY is she saying the things she is saying and feeling the way she does. maybe it is not the helping but the way she is ordered and expected to fulfil them what makes her fill like she should be paid...
 
Kaynil said:
DavidL said:
it's the 21st century now.
So what... does that imply? That taking away the computer he paid for from her as a way of punishment should not longer apply? He did not harm her and the girl and him got to talk alright and solve e the differences in a civilized manner. I don't see how it is different to my father punishing me the way he said he would when I misbehave deliberately.

The girl was talking trash on them by cowardly posting a letter in Facebook confident they wouldn't see it, instead of talking it directly. I think it would had been better if both talked it directly. But I am not arguing what could be better, simply taht don't see it as the big 'ape for the past century' many seem to.
It implies that there are different ways to deal with such issues, unlike from when he grew up. "He did not harm her" is a very self-centered and bystander thought. What about the psychological harm he potentially placed upon her? She's only 15/6 and is growing up. She needs time to mature and understand things better. "Taking away" is different from "taking away and shooting it". But "taking away" severely limits a person's potential to grow. Today is technology, embrace it, not deprive someone of it. If that father is seriously in IT, why not put a Facebook block or a filter? He seriously needs to reconsider his way of approaching things.

Apart from that, we are arguing the same point 🙂
 
@Everyone questioning his profession, I doubt he would state his profession is something then post the video for everyone that knows him in real life to catch his bullshit.
 
White Panda said:
@Everyone questioning his profession, I doubt he would state his profession is something then post the video for everyone that knows him in real life to catch his bullshit.
Um...his argument requires and is based on his knowledge and profession in IT. Otherwise, I doubt your average middle aged Joe is going to know that much about the Internet. Of course the daughter could also be privacy-dumb, but I'm putting my money on the former.
 
Well seeing as more than a handful 14-18 year old girls I know don't even know how to change their own home page for their own computers, I wouldn't put it past her for being privacy-dumb.
 
DavidL said:
It implies that there are different ways to deal with such issues, unlike from when he grew up. "He did not harm her" is a very self-centered and bystander thought. What about the psychological harm he potentially placed upon her? She's only 15/6 and is growing up. She needs time to mature and understand things better. "Taking away" is different from "taking away and shooting it". But "taking away" severely limits a person's potential to grow. Today is technology, embrace it, not deprive someone of it. If that father is seriously in IT, why not put a Facebook block or a filter? He seriously needs to reconsider his way of approaching things.

Apart from that, we are arguing the same point 🙂
I guess what we differ about is the take on the deprivation of technology. I think it is very likely there were more computers in the household, maybe she'll have to ask or use with supervision. But I understand your point and I reconsider, it is a big assumption that she is not being harmed psychologically by this. I am going by the follow up idea that things were resolved fine.


I am going to be honest. I don't even thing this is real. I think in the end it is a 'hoax' to bring more attention in whatever the father is working at. Specially since finding the Facebook page is not difficult at all. =/
 
The video blew up on YouTube! I wish my mum is able to do that to me, I spend far to much time on the internet and I can never limit myself on it. I also don't release how lucky I am to have what I have and I really respect my mum for giving me what I have but I don't show the respect. What the father did was brilliant though 🙂
 
lol at dr phil reaction

i think it was stupid of the father to get a gun involved....
its like saying ''you can solve things by voilent actions''
:sleep:

many of you may say thats true
but even it is..........
world aint getting any better by the day cause of it​
 
I don't know. I have to be their to see both sides.

But shooting the laptop is a bit over the top.
 
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