Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

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Also, how long have you been in one?


Let's share our stories.

I was in one with my husband. At the time, he was just a boyfriend. He had a stress disorder where he would shut down from time to time, and never tell me what was truly bothering him. He ended up telling me he was being harassed by his friends and co workers about our relationship. I would always feel scared for him, but he would never open up....I began to think he grew bored of me....so I broke up with him.

Months and months passed, and I was still maddly in love with him. I didnt get actual closure, so it was hard to know where his feelings were with me. I ended up calling him, and he was quite happy to hear from me. We went back to being in a long distance relationship, until he found someone else where he was living. He confessed he felt a stronger connection with her, because she worked in the same field as he did, and obtained physical connection with her. I didnt understand. One moment he was saying I was tailor made for him, and claims he kept a promise ring waiting for me all this time when we move in together. The next moment, I am nothing. I was devastated.

When he broke the news to me, he admitted that he actually tried to commit suicide, just after one week of me breaking up with him. It really scared me. I wish I had known what was going on...

1 month passed after we broke up again when he told me he found someone, I ended up finding an excuse to meet up with him at his state. At the time, I had over a thousand dollars to meet up. At first, he seemed like he didn't want to. Then, I convinced him it'd be emotionally healthy for him. He finally agreed. I was not nervous at all to meet, because I had known him for so long.

He told me I was even more gorgeous in person. It made me feel wonderful. We had drinks, (non alcoholic), and we just discussed our feelings. It made me feel so special. He said he had to get ready for work, so I told him that I will be too sleepy to meet up later. I gave him my hotel room number, and told him to come around if he needs to speak privately.

I went back to my hotel, crying. I was full of so much emotion. I was almost asleep, but then I heard a knock. It was him. He sat us down on the bed, and we talked for so long. In the conversation, I told him that I support him and his new found love. To be honest, I wouldn't care if he was with me or not. I just want him to be happy. He told me he didn't love her. Now that I was in his face, he wanted me. I didn't let it happen.....

I was afraid of getting hurt.....


He asked if he could just sleep the night. I said no.

The next day, we spoke some more. He saw me off on my way to the airport, gave me a bear hug, and said he didn't want me to go......

He presented the promise ring he bought me, and I was so surprised he had kept it. He couldn't let go.....

I couldn't either....so, neither of us did, and I started a new life together in his home town. He's now officially away from me and our baby on a business trip. I cried so hard....I thought he was going to find someone else again. He had given me a picture of us, and a song to play until he came back. Ed sheeran's photograph song whispered "You'll be okay" when I played it every night. Not one single tear doesn't fall down my cheek when I do.
 
I've been in too many for anyone's good, and could be here all night writing out all the stories. =p

In regards to duration, they've usually lasted at least a year.
 
Tucker933 said:
I've been in too many for anyone's good, and could be here all night writing out all the stories. =p

In regards to duration, they've usually lasted at least a year.
Please post one. I'm in the mood for story time.
 
I haven't been in a long distance relationship myself, but my younger sister had been, and married the person. The person she was in one with, that she got married to, was a childhood crush. When we moved away from the city, to a different state, she somehow found a way to stay in contact, and eventually moved back to that city, and married him a couple years later.
 
I never really had one. I mean, I talked to a girl for a long time (I still do) from another state. Things get pretty romantic sometimes but I really don't have the time and effort to commit to anything like a long distance relationship.
 
I was in a long distance relationship with a lass from Turkey. It lasted for three years with a break in the middle. It's difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who resides on a different continent, not just emotionally but financially too. The four-hour flights to and from Turkey were a slight dip to the ol' wages at the time, but since I enjoy flying it was a win-win.

In the end, it just wasn't working out.
 
yes totally I lived in Italy for a while and I had a girlfriend there then we moved to the Americas and I talk to her now on skype
 
I was in a long distance relationship. My (now) husband lived in England and I live in Canada. He moved here a few years ago, we're married, and now have a 4 month old son ^_^ It wasn't easy. But it was worth it!
 
Rich Edmonds said:
I was in a long distance relationship with a lass from Turkey. It lasted for three years with a break in the middle. It's difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who resides on a different continent, not just emotionally but financially too.
Similar case. 😛

While I couldn't even recall if what we had was an official relationship (shame on me), I was rather intimate with a certain person I knew from another forum for a while. I think it must've been at least two years. We tried to keep up with the communication as much as we could but due to different schedules I found it hard to keep up with each other. I just couldn't push it through anymore.

It's amazing to hear stories of your long distance relationships working. It's not an easy thing, especially if it is with someone you have never met before. But I guess if you really have the commitment and strong heart to hold on, nothing is impossible.
 
Migi said:
Rich Edmonds said:
I was in a long distance relationship with a lass from Turkey. It lasted for three years with a break in the middle. It's difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who resides on a different continent, not just emotionally but financially too.
Similar case. 😛

While I couldn't even recall if what we had was an official relationship (shame on me), I was rather intimate with a certain person I knew from another forum for a while. I think it must've been at least two years. We tried to keep up with the communication as much as we could but due to different schedules I found it hard to keep up with each other. I just couldn't push it through anymore.

It's amazing to hear stories of your long distance relationships working. It's not an easy thing, especially if it is with someone you have never met before. But I guess if you really have the commitment and strong heart to hold on, nothing is impossible.

Sadly, all things must come to an end! Though I've never been intimate with someone from an online community before. Would be certainly interesting to hear the tale someday.
 
Rich Edmonds said:
Sadly, all things must come to an end! Though I've never been intimate with someone from an online community before. Would be certainly interesting to hear the tale someday.
We talked a lot with each other, it started with hobbies about what we watch or read, then the topics grew to be more common and universal. We enjoyed each other's presence and got rather intimate after that.
 
Migi said:
We talked a lot with each other, it started with hobbies about what we watch or read, then the topics grew to be more common and universal. We enjoyed each other's presence and got rather intimate after that.


Hello, Migi.

I like forums.

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Been in one, lasted for a year and seven months before it ended. It was falling apart way before that. I feel like he grew bored of me and I was the only one putting in any effort into the relationship, and he never really seemed to give a crap. Whenever I tried to bring issues up, he didn't seem to care then either. He ended up being the one to break it off, mostly because I was too naive in believing that it could still work and whatnot. It hurt a bit at first, but I've gotten over it now and I feel like I'm a lot happier now than I was when I was in the relationship. *shrug* Oh well. It was probably bound to happen anyways, and I'm not too miffed about it now.
 
My longest long distance relationship lasted a year. But I was in middle school, 8th grade when it began. I had been completely in love with this guy. But then I thought he died in a hurricane, I hadn't been able to get a hold of him for months. When he came back, or able to get in contact, I was completely too in shock but I was of course happy. Another online friend broke us up though, which was awful. I'm barely over this guy, but he is still in my life. He has been with 3-4 in very serious relationships, I think he is now with the girl he'll probably marry for sure. He has a kid with another woman, and he has grown so much. And it's great to be able to see that for someone so great.

The only long distance relationship I got to meet was a guy I met on a forum as well, when we met it just felt awkward for me, I spent the day with him, we went to the mall one day, and another we went to Six Flag's Theme park.

I've had really important long distance relationships and they've all made a huge impact on me. <3
 
Reverie said:
The only long distance relationship I got to meet was a guy I met on a forum as well, when we met it just felt awkward for me, I spent the day with him, we went to the mall one day, and another we went to Six Flag's Theme park.

I've had really important long distance relationships and they've all made a huge impact on me. <3
Is that Twisted Fairytale? :happy:

But I agree with you. At the very least, it taught me my limits and confirmed what I really treasure in life and relationship.
 
Migi said:
Reverie said:
The only long distance relationship I got to meet was a guy I met on a forum as well, when we met it just felt awkward for me, I spent the day with him, we went to the mall one day, and another we went to Six Flag's Theme park.

I've had really important long distance relationships and they've all made a huge impact on me. <3
Is that Twisted Fairytale? :happy:

But I agree with you. At the very least, it taught me my limits and confirmed what I really treasure in life and relationship.
No me and Twisted Fairytale is something special ;D

And that is quite important. I think my long distance relationships taught me a lot of patience and learning what I liked most in a partner. Like what is really worth the wait in a way.
 
The only 'long distance' relationship I've had was when an old partner of mine had to go out of town for most of a 1 year period a few years ago. I don't think that makes me experienced on this topic, but I think mostly this kind of relationships really challenge trust :/
 
I had a long distant relationship with my now husband. We didn't start off as being long distance though. I worked with his best friend and he was the one that introduced as to each other. We dated for few months when he decided to join the Army. We tried to break it off when he went into boot camp because he didn't want to keep me waiting and quite frankly at the time I didn't like the idea of staying exclusive with someone who isn't even with me. It didn't work out that way. We stayed in touch all through boot camp via letters, and then text, call, and emails when he was training for his MOS. I flew out as much as I could to see him on weekends. It was stressful but totally worth the work. 🙂
 
I'm actually in a long distance relationship right now, online. 😛
 
Y'all are in some pretty long distance relationships. 😛 Personally, the longest relationship I've been in is about 2 states over, and even then, we were only 3 hours away. 😛
 
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