Hate, much like anger is just wasted energy. If I don't like you, then I just won't acknowledge your existence. No need to go around telling someone that you hate them because all you are doing is wasting your energy on them, and you are actively telling them that you are thinking about them enough to waste the energy needed to hate them.
This is why the opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference, since it takes as much energy to hate someone as it does to love them.
There is also the fact that words can't be taken back once said and they can have a profound effect on people. I know that I would feel like a first-class a-hole for saying something like that and then if something were to happen and they needed my help, or I needed their's and they remembered the last thing I said to them.
So, in that regard, I'm not likely to say anything like that to someone.. and this is coming from a hot-tempered, razor-tongued, Brooklynite who doesn't take sh-t from anyone and will let you know that fact in a New York minute.
Like someone said before hate is a very strong word. Now to shot myself in the foot I will confess that I use the sentence for comedic purposes to give a childish answer in high pitch voice with people that I know will get it as such and not mistake it for a real confession. Specially when I proposed something that the target has just made clear was out of our reality/budget. I am basically mimicking the way many of us used it against our parents when we didn't get our way, even though it was more anger and frustration that real hatred. In turn I am mocking myself to diffuse any tension or invite a foolish roleplay. Yup, I am easily entertained by that.
Back to my serious answer:
I try to go by the fact that we're all humans and at some point we will do things that will bring discomfort and more to other people, so I tend to dislike more attitude or actions than the person itself. It takes a lot and I mean a real lot to develop lasting negative feelings toward other people to drag around. Even in the rare instance it has happened it vanishes as soon as I can recover from the hit.
As we grow up thankfully we discover a wide array of words to cover more appropriately our feelings toward different negative situations in our lives so hate is like a last resort. I actively try to change hate for dislike, annoys, etc when I use it on trivial, pretty much alongside with changing love for enjoy and like.
Lastly, I think that having hate causes damage to ourselves. There will be situations where we cannot avoid mingling with people we don't feel comfortable with. By accepting ourselves can be causing some annoyances and that many things are not wrong or right but simply different we can develop more tolerance to endure said situations and we become less likely to let ourselves be annoyed by petty differences. I am not minimizing other people's happening with this, but there are situations where our hate for someone has grown up in our heads by silently collecting every single mistake and flaw rather that trying to negotiate a way to deal with them.
No. I just imagine saying that to a person I have problems with, and it gets easier. Generally, I'm very careful with words. Or perhaps I haven't hated anyone badly enough.
I love this question. I personally try not to let hate consume me. If I have a genuine dislike for someone, I certainly do not want them controlling me with my own hate. Make them irrelevant to your situation and move on. Just opinion. Dont let anyone rent space in your head.(rent space in theirs)😎
