Your Social Village
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How was it?
Or if you were not, what do you feel about bullying?
Cheers! 🙂
Or if you were not, what do you feel about bullying?
Cheers! 🙂
Were you ever bullied when you were young?
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Your Social Village said:
I don't understand the "How was it?" part honestly. Whenever someone is bullied it is not a fun time in their life, so that question is rather stupid in my opinion.
I'll tell a short story because I don't feel like going far into detail.
When I was in 9th grade, I was bullied by a kid that was a lot bigger than me. I was always afraid about going to school, because we would tell me he would kill me, him and his friends would jump (all of them fight me at once) me, etc. I remember waking up for school a lot of the time and tell my mom that I was sick because I didn't want to go anymore. It caused me to be very depressed, and I thought that I was not good enough, etc. I now look back and I don't really understand why I was afraid of the kid, but I suppose at the time that is not really on your mind when you're being bullied. Overall I hate bullying, I think that it is the most screwed up thing that you can do to someone. I personally feel that bullying should be look at as a criminal offense, in which someone could have to pay a find or serve jail time for bullying an individual. But yeah, that's a little short story of what happened to me when I was younger.
The Governor
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Your Social Village said:
An add-on to what Jimmy said, there is no "good/fun bullying". It's bad for everyone, regardless of the severity. I had a few disabilities in my childhood (some that I still have), and I got picked on quite a lot for it. Toward the end of middle school, I had enough, and snapped on a kid, pretty much beating the crap out of him. Since that day, no one ever bullied me again.
I'm not an advocator of violence, but it seems like you have to physically fight back and show the bully you're not weak like they assume. If you fight back, and they get their butt handed to them, it teaches them. Pretty sad.
I have had the misfortune of being bullied before, and I think maybe generally speaking everyone is at one point or another. There are certainly cases that are worse than others. In my own experience, I hated it, and it didn't stop until I met my high school boyfriend who is now my husband. Start walking around with a 6'4 240 lb guy and people think better of it before they open their mouths.
Your Social Village
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I'm sorry. I know being bullied sucks. I just meant it like, how were you able to cope up with it, or something in that sense. Anyway, thanks for sharing, much appreciated. Cheers! :great:JimmysNetwork said:
Nice. That's pretty great, considering that most people who get bullied can't stand-up to the bully.The Governor said:
And yeah, not that I'm into violence, but that was a brave thing to do. 😀
ForumSource
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I was never bullied but that's because I don't think I allowed myself to be bullied. I'm Asian and I definitely got a lot of ridicule for that and I didn't understand why for the longest time but once I figured out people are just ignorant and stupid I felt that what anyone said didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things so I just laughed everything they said off and no one would ever try bullying me.
The Governor
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Your Social Village said:
That's why most bullies get away with what they do. In some cases, the victim is too afraid of the bully, or just doesn't want to confront them. In other cases, the victim wants to do something about it, but can't because they will get in trouble. Stupid how that works. Schools punish the victims for fighting back, while the bullies themselves only get a slap on the wrist.
Your Social Village
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That's right! Although that is not usually the case, it's true that the victims that fights back usually gets the heavier punishment. Though I'm not saying that that happens all the time, I'm just saying that the victim doesn't really get justified. It's unfair. :/<br /><br />-- 17 Apr 2014, 10:25 --<br /><br />The Governor said:
It's weird how some people stereotype Asians. Anyway, thanks for sharing. It's great that you did not allow yourself to be bullied, not all can do that. Kudos! 🙂ForumSource said:
The Governor
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Your Social Village said:
It's unfortunate, but it happens almost every single time. Here's another example - Bullied student charged with wiretapping for recording his bully in the act
The charges have since been dropped, but you get the point. It's either take the bullying until you end up snapping or killing yourself, or fight back and still get in trouble for it.
Forces of Steel
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Fortunately, I wasn't. It still sucks that some of my good friends have had to deal with it. Oh, well.
Your Social Village
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That's awful. It's unjust, really. I feel so sorry for the guy and his mom. I hope that they get justified.The Governor said:
I was bullied for years to the point I was removed from school for 2 weeks for my own personal safety before I ended up likely getting sent to an emergency ward instead of the school nurse.
The worst part of bullying is as others have said, the lack of help and options for the victim. You tell a teacher and nothing happens. Bully gets told to apologise when they blatantly don't mean it, and maybe they get a detention which they don't care for and just use as more reason to seek you out to get revenge for it. Go to the teacher too much and they just get sick of dealing with you and just give crap advice like "Always keep a distance from them" as if that helps inside a classroom environment where words can easily travel. Then you fight back and get totally mauled by the teachers for doing it, being told "Don't use violence". I'm sorry where was your ideal methods of social standards when I was getting my ass kicked in on a weekly basis? Oh right, nowhere because majority rules and one person is easier to ignore than a whole class of kids.
I pity any teacher I dare have to go to a school due to any bullying issues my kids may suffer from. Although I will tell my kid if someone won't leave them alone and no one will do anything, hit them as a last resort and if the teacher gives you a detention, I'll personally tell the teacher to shove it. I wish I'd fought back and hit people in school more when it got too much, and to have then been wise enough to tell the teachers that if they want me in detention they can drag me to it themselves.
The worst part of bullying is as others have said, the lack of help and options for the victim. You tell a teacher and nothing happens. Bully gets told to apologise when they blatantly don't mean it, and maybe they get a detention which they don't care for and just use as more reason to seek you out to get revenge for it. Go to the teacher too much and they just get sick of dealing with you and just give crap advice like "Always keep a distance from them" as if that helps inside a classroom environment where words can easily travel. Then you fight back and get totally mauled by the teachers for doing it, being told "Don't use violence". I'm sorry where was your ideal methods of social standards when I was getting my ass kicked in on a weekly basis? Oh right, nowhere because majority rules and one person is easier to ignore than a whole class of kids.
I pity any teacher I dare have to go to a school due to any bullying issues my kids may suffer from. Although I will tell my kid if someone won't leave them alone and no one will do anything, hit them as a last resort and if the teacher gives you a detention, I'll personally tell the teacher to shove it. I wish I'd fought back and hit people in school more when it got too much, and to have then been wise enough to tell the teachers that if they want me in detention they can drag me to it themselves.
I was bullied for 5 whole years in high school. It was the worst years of my life, to say the least. It has affected me in many ways. Teachers were useless back then, no offense. I'm so glad it's over though.
some people obviously like making others lives a nightmare. =(
some people obviously like making others lives a nightmare. =(
Joshua Farrell
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For the short time I was in a big high school before I moved, I didn't get bullied, partly due to the fact that I chatted with the on duty police officers and the football coaches on a daily basis. That in itself forced immature teens to decide to not pick on myself, due to the fact that I had both the police, and the coaches who knew me enough to help me out when I needed the help.
Gamer Outpost
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People who bully others are pathetic, but people who let themselves be bullied aren't much better. I mean it's not that hard to ignore someone, especially when you are at school (for just 35 hours a week no less) and everyone has work to do. If a bully gets physical, get physical back, you have a right to defend yourself, to exercise it. Bullies pick out the weak, timid kids to pick on because they won't stand up for themselves.
If the teachers/faculty do not care, just yell out "dude, please stop bothering me" every time someone tries to pick on you, eventually they will stop for fear of getting embarrassed and/or punished.
If the teachers/faculty do not care, just yell out "dude, please stop bothering me" every time someone tries to pick on you, eventually they will stop for fear of getting embarrassed and/or punished.
McConnaughay
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I was harassed a lot whenever I was younger, but a lot of it had to do with some of the problems that I hadn't figured out how to do deal with on my own. I had social-anxiety and a lot of the time, I might have misinterpreted some things and made matters worse off for myself than they needed to be.
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