I think a lot of this stuff is macho crap. Some guys want to bully those living at home. But then again, living at home isn't attractive to most unless society forces it.
Adults living at home are babies.
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I think a lot of this stuff is macho crap. Some guys want to bully those living at home. But then again, living at home isn't attractive to most unless society forces it.
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Most people would rather live on their own, however, there are certain situations that don't allow that. I know there might be some people out there that might be mooching off someone else but that isn't the case 100% of the time. My hubby was living with his mom and grandmother before we got married. He wasn't doing that because he wanted to mooch...he was doing that to take care of his mom and grandmother. When we got married, we moved somewhere close so that he could continue to look after them. I was still living with my parents when we got married but that was because I would not have been able to pay all the bills that come with living independently on my own. When my hubby and I got married though, it was different because we had two incomes instead of just one. Everybody's situation is different. Not everyone that lives with their parents or grandparents is doing it to mooch.
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I'd say in many cases, the parents are to blame cause they want the children around.
I'd say in many cases, the parents are to blame cause they want the children around.
Many have no choice also. I mean how many that does live in a family home and what age groups. Do an poll and see.
I don't think someone who stays at home even most of their life is necessarily a baby or needs to grow up. There can easily be reasons for it. Though of course those who are just sitting at their parents house not even trying to change or do anything... Yeah, time to grow up.
Fact is that in many places today the job market sucks. (And it's going to get worse as advancing technology erodes jobs. Once they get sufficiently advanced AI jobs like bank tellers or taxi drivers will be at real risk of vanishing.) Employers now often don't even want full time employees either. (Because if things are slow they have to pay up to full time hours. So one might only work 30 hours but get paid for 40. That and it can be harder to get rid of a full time employee. Also it makes some sense to have 2 employees work 20 hours each because then if something comes up you can have them work more hours to cover the need.)
Many of the white collar jobs are also so highly competitive that getting into them is a massive challenge. You almost need someone you know on the inside already to get you in.
Add in the issue of rent being high in many places. In cities rent for a small 1 bedroom apartment can easily be over a thousand a month. Even with a minimum wage of 15 an hour it can be tough to make that if you don't work a full 40 a week. And that doesn't even factor in the cost of food or fuel either. Plus and extra bills like internet or mobile.
All that puts a real strain on people.
I think that people need to understand that today's world is very different from even 20 years ago. So someone who's spent the last even 10 years working comfortably at their job doesn't have any idea what things are like now.
Fact is that in many places today the job market sucks. (And it's going to get worse as advancing technology erodes jobs. Once they get sufficiently advanced AI jobs like bank tellers or taxi drivers will be at real risk of vanishing.) Employers now often don't even want full time employees either. (Because if things are slow they have to pay up to full time hours. So one might only work 30 hours but get paid for 40. That and it can be harder to get rid of a full time employee. Also it makes some sense to have 2 employees work 20 hours each because then if something comes up you can have them work more hours to cover the need.)
Many of the white collar jobs are also so highly competitive that getting into them is a massive challenge. You almost need someone you know on the inside already to get you in.
Add in the issue of rent being high in many places. In cities rent for a small 1 bedroom apartment can easily be over a thousand a month. Even with a minimum wage of 15 an hour it can be tough to make that if you don't work a full 40 a week. And that doesn't even factor in the cost of food or fuel either. Plus and extra bills like internet or mobile.
All that puts a real strain on people.
I think that people need to understand that today's world is very different from even 20 years ago. So someone who's spent the last even 10 years working comfortably at their job doesn't have any idea what things are like now.
Me and my wife are babies as well. 😀 As long as I support financially and assist them with their needs I don't think its a shame.
Even though i'm employed and having an above the average salary, buying a house is very expensive and the cost of living is always going up. Renting is not an option to me. I'd rather hand the monthly payment to my parents rather than paying it to someone else.
Even though i'm employed and having an above the average salary, buying a house is very expensive and the cost of living is always going up. Renting is not an option to me. I'd rather hand the monthly payment to my parents rather than paying it to someone else.
I know some one who move back in with his mum as she can`t be left alone she cant walk and has dementia
so need 24 hours care he gave up his job and home to care for her
As is brothers and sister are married with children so I would not say he is a baby he is lucky if he gets 3 or 4 hours sleep because she does not sleep much and has more then one falling out of bed if he was not there there be noone to care for here even though carers come in 4 times a day to do personal care he does every thing else
so need 24 hours care he gave up his job and home to care for her
As is brothers and sister are married with children so I would not say he is a baby he is lucky if he gets 3 or 4 hours sleep because she does not sleep much and has more then one falling out of bed if he was not there there be noone to care for here even though carers come in 4 times a day to do personal care he does every thing else
Not to be personal, but mine won't get even a once-a-day caregiver. But she won't take medicine. Claims she takes it but don't.
In the UK they try and keep people at home if they can she sometime will not take here medicine and will not eat but if left on her own so the people that come in just do personal care like getting her wash and dressed taken her to the bathroom friend has to do every thing else
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I suppose living with a parent is fine depending on the circumstances, for me I still live with my mom because I just set up my own business at the beginning of the year and am in no financial situation to get a place of my own. I once knew a guy that lived with his parents although earning a decent wage, I remember him once he rang his mom and demaned her to iron his jeans for him and she obliged. If I said that to my mom I would have heaed a lot of swears.
What I hate are loser, wimp, thief accusations from family. That's why I want to leave!
In out culture, it is all right for a married child to remain in the home of the parents. In fact, some of my brothers lived with us until their children were in high school before they moved out. I was the youngest and when I left home, one brother was still left with my parents. But it depends on the kind of parents. There are parents who are not so kind that they force their children out of their homes just to teach them to be independent. For me, it depends on the financial state of condition of the child. If he has the resources then he could move to a condo and live alone to practice being independent.
From a financial perspective, you have a lot more bills and taxes to deal with, if you live in a separate accommodation. By having more people in one place, you can divide the costs between everyone and bring the burden on the individual down.
I think the problem here is that people seem to automatically associate it with being a parasite, which is frankly, stupid.
I did that for a short time when I was a teenager, nothing hugely long, and it just gets boring.
When you watch these people on YouTube doing it, it's usually either as a hobby, or they're literally getting paid to do it, and well, if people are going to pay tons of money to watch you play video games, then that's a no-brainer.
I think the problem here is that people seem to automatically associate it with being a parasite, which is frankly, stupid.
Pretty much, there is nothing more boring than playing video games all the time.
I did that for a short time when I was a teenager, nothing hugely long, and it just gets boring.
When you watch these people on YouTube doing it, it's usually either as a hobby, or they're literally getting paid to do it, and well, if people are going to pay tons of money to watch you play video games, then that's a no-brainer.
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I'm going to have to disagree with the title of the topic. My girlfriend and I had to move in with her parents because she ended up being hospitalized for mental issues. During this time, our lease was up, her and I were both going through a dark period so we just didn't even bother to look for a place beforehand. Now here we are, she currently doesn't have a job but I just got a better paying job and can save up much better. (During the time she was in the hospital, I was only making $11 working at Walmart and she was working at Walgreens making $13 or so.) Trust me when I say that I wish we could just say screw it and move out. We just can't do so right now, all we can do is save up until we can afford to move out. She's about to start school, and then she plans on getting a part time job to help out with what little bills we have and to help save up. However to those who are still living at home with no intentions of getting a job or moving out, and if they don't have any mental issues, then I would consider them to be "babies" or just plain lazy. If you're trying your best to better your life and move out, then that's great!
Well, in my own family, one person complaining has two adult sons living with him - one 20 and the other 24! Of course, they work, aren't on welfare - but still, the point being, they can afford their own place. Well, I don't see that those guys are saving up for anything (business plan or something).
I do not see adults living with their parents as babies especially when they could afford to pay for rent outside where their parents lives. Some people might wants to be more comfortable before they will leave their parents house.
In some cases if they're supporting their parents, I would say it's a justified reason. If you're disabled and can't take care of yourself, that's justified. What is not justified is if they're perfectly healthy, full grown ass man capable of getting a job and working, has no desire to work, has kids they won't raise, and sponges off of their parents. That's a major fail. Something went terribly wrong somewhere somehow and it needs to be fixed. I don't think that's morally right.
Speaking of which, I used to be friends with this guy named Charles that did that to his parents for years when he should have been out paving his own way. I think there was some blame on his parents part because they enabled him. He picked up his bad habits somewhere.
When he was barely making it, he moved in with another friend that I know, and sponged off of him. Kevin worked on the road, so he wasn't home all of the time and he was going to be out for over several months. So he told Charles that he could move in and watch over the place for him. He and Charles had been best friends for over 25 years. Since they were little. This turned out be a terrible idea.
What happened? Charles wrecked Kevin's house and when Kevin threw him and his fiancé out, Charles demanded that Kevin owed him this and that, and then demanded money. Kevin didn't owe him money at all. If anything, Charles owed him money for the damages he did to Kevin's house. The guy was a real shithead. Kevin always felt sorry for him and was always giving him a chance. But this was the straw that broke the camel's back because it affected Kevin's children. Charles always seemed to take advantage of Kevin's forgiving nature.
I'm glad I burned my bridge with him. I'm not as tolerant with people. I'm not Kevin, therefor I lack the parts where I'm not as forgiving or nurturing. It was over something else that he did to me. I gave him a chance to come clean and try to rectify his wrong. When I confronted him about it because it was real important to me. I was with this woman that had been seeing him behind my back and he didn't have the balls to do the right thing. He could have not done what he did. When confronted, he shifted the burden of blame on to me because he refuses to take responsibility for his own actions. Cheating, to me, is immoral and it does ruin friendships. What he did next was just as shitty. He spread lies and disinformation to my other circle of friends which I was not going to take credit for. I was done after that. Really done. I've never had anyone shit on me the way he did. It was unacceptable.
I have no problem accepting responsibility for what I do wrong because it allows me to move on. But I will not take responsibility for something when I'm not guilty of it and committed no wrongs. But this guy just really over plays the innocent card to no end. He always finds an excuse to justify it. It's pathetic how he uses his friends and victimizes them. What's worse is that he shifts the burden of blame onto you and tries to twist it around in every way that he can. He'll even dishonestly play the victim. I can't stand people like him.
People like him just suck the life out of people including their parents.
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