Apologizing

[Deleted member 32117]

Is there a way to time travel and stop hurting people like trolling I feel in the past I have hurt many people as a troll and I feel very bad thinking about even if i apologized it still doesn't help as the harm is done to the person. What is your take on this? is there a way to Apologize to people who you have caused harm especially online like a troll. I know few months ago I did troll a user with another person I did apologize to that person but they didn't want to talk to me. (if I could take it back the harm I have caused to that person I would).

 

[guyy_]

aww 🙁 i forgive you!!

dont know what you did but i forgive you

 

[Deleted member 32117]

aww 🙁 i forgive you!!

dont know what you did but i forgive you

Thanks for the kind words

 

[Page]

well, we all do something that we all have to apologise about. It's apart of life.

 

[Mozzie]

We have all done it, in some way or another, all you can do is say sorry and if that person doesn't want to except that, then that's is it, not a lot you can do about it, if you are genuinely sorry about it then you have tried to repair what you did. I don't know how in depth you sis it, and some people get really annoyed about it anf rightly so, but dwelling on it won't help you, you tried, move on..

 

[Deleted member 32117]

We have all done it, in some way or another, all you can do is say sorry and if that person doesn't want to except that, then that's is it, not a lot you can do about it, if you are genuinely sorry about it then you have tried to repair what you did. I don't know how in depth you sis it, and some people get really annoyed about it anf rightly so, but dwelling on it won't help you, you tried, move on..

I did say sorry to that member but it happened few months ago

 

[Joshua Farrell]

The good part about apologizing, is that the act of doing it can help the person who apologizes, even if the person who it was meant for doesn't want to accept it.

Most of the people whom I have apologized to has accepted it, but there is always that one person who doesn't care.

 

[Page]

I tend to have more people apologies to me more then the other way

 

[chrissky]

i mean, trolling on the internet is nothing and if they take it seriously then awell

 

[TDK]

i mean, trolling on the internet is nothing and if they take it seriously then awell

I really wouldn't say it's nothing as the authorities have been getting more and more involved with internet trolling over the years. Trolling someone online can have the same effect on any given individual as if you were trolling them in person. People can't presume that because it's done online that others should ignore it or let it slide. There are sometimes very real consequences on both sides of the 'troll'.

 

[Gus]

Trolls are one reason I don't miss running a forum. People get upset and expect me (as the admin) to do something about it. When I do, the troll comes back harder with proxies & vpn's. It's just an endless and frivolous battle. Who needs the drama? I've got better things to do with my time.

Anyway, trolls suck and most of them suck at trolling.

 

[Bluezone777]

I wouldn't say it was nothing as plenty of forums would toss you out over it. It's perhaps nothing to you because you are likely a fan of doing it to others but I find those who do it to others don't seem to be as eager to have it done to them. There's nothing fun or enjoyable about being abused by others. It's wrong and not something I would tolerate or want to see get tolerated anywhere that I am at. Of course we have to remember that trolling is not genuine disagreements in discussion topics because I seen that word get watered down by those who equate genuine disagreements as trolling because they have no stomach for being disagreed with on anything.

 

[tom93]

Everything's the past. The important thing is that you realized and tried to fix them. If the thing didn't turn like you expected, even you tried hard, then just relieve. Cause life is life, it gave you a lesson and you learned it 🙂

 

[Corzhens]

An apology is like rebuilding the bridge of relationship. But it doesn't mean that the apology is automatically accepted. There are pains brought about by mistakes that cannot be erased by apology. In my case, I had learned to forgive people for offending me whether they apologize or not. What matters is that I had forgiven them although they cannot expect for the relationship to be back to normal.

 

[Deleted member 32117]

An apology is like rebuilding the bridge of relationship. But it doesn't mean that the apology is automatically accepted. There are pains brought about by mistakes that cannot be erased by apology. In my case, I had learned to forgive people for offending me whether they apologize or not. What matters is that I had forgiven them although they cannot expect for the relationship to be back to normal.

Exactly but the difficult part of this is that its online so its not like if I troll a friend of mine we apology with one and other we are like what you said ok like for friends we know each other more compared to online you what I am saying I hope (My grammar is bad) sometimes people might take in a negative way even though sometimes we don't think and mean what we say to a person its sad.

 

[joegirl]

This has happened to me as well and I really did try my best to apologise to this person, but they would not have it and they stopped talking to me. It hurt so bad, because I knew I was wrong and I did say sorry. But to them , sorry just wasn't enough. It got so bad I stopped going to all the places I could possibly bump into this person. But one day, I just said to myself, you know what, I did try. I have learnt from my mistake and it won't happen again. Now I found new friends who mean the world to me. I refused to own that burden anymore.

 

[Pebbles]

Is there a way to time travel and stop hurting people like trolling I feel in the past I have hurt many people as a troll and I feel very bad thinking about even if i apologized it still doesn't help as the harm is done to the person. What is your take on this? is there a way to Apologize to people who you have caused harm especially online like a troll. I know few months ago I did troll a user with another person I did apologize to that person but they didn't want to talk to me. (if I could take it back the harm I have caused to that person I would).

You make it sound like trolling people online became a part of your daily routine... (meaning you probably loved doing it a lot?)
so why all of a sudden are you sorry for all of it now? Did someone did it back to you twice as bad and it caused for you to see the light now or something? Did you finally realise in life that you should leave people alone and let them be?

just curious why some ''skilled'' troll would make this kind of thread, considering most trolls are never sorry for anything they say, so yeah, that's why i am asking 🙂 (may it hopefully not be another attempt of trolling aka seeking attention if you are actually truly sorry)

 

[Lord Saru]

Hey! I guess its okay as long as you tried. The point is, make sure that you dont troll anyone else again. Once you realize your mistake, the best strategy is to stop committing that mistake again and again.

 

[Deleted member 32117]

Is there a way to time travel and stop hurting people like trolling I feel in the past I have hurt many people as a troll and I feel very bad thinking about even if i apologized it still doesn't help as the harm is done to the person. What is your take on this? is there a way to Apologize to people who you have caused harm especially online like a troll. I know few months ago I did troll a user with another person I did apologize to that person but they didn't want to talk to me. (if I could take it back the harm I have caused to that person I would).

You make it sound like trolling people online became a part of your daily routine... (meaning you probably loved doing it a lot?)
so why all of a sudden are you sorry for all of it now? Did someone did it back to you twice as bad and it caused for you to see the light now or something? Did you finally realise in life that you should leave people alone and let them be?

just curious why some ''skilled'' troll would make this kind of thread, considering most trolls are never sorry for anything they say, so yeah, that's why i am asking 🙂 (may it hopefully not be another attempt of trolling aka seeking attention if you are actually truly sorry)

I did it maybe once or twice tbh I don't like trolling and I don't get what you mean by attention seeking

EDIT: No Offence @Pebbles

 

[Shannon Apple]

It depends on what you did to the person. Simply flaming someone and being a jackass isn't really trolling, it's being a jackass. I'd forgive someone for that if they apologised and meant it.

@chrissky Trolling on the other hand can get extremely serious and in some cases... dangerous. I have seen it first hand several years ago where someone found out that a person in the chatroom was transgender and transitioning from male to female. The trolls decided to set her up with a guy that they knew would not be interested in her and telling her he said all these nice things about her. She had severe body dysmorphia, so her confidence was extremely low. This went on for ages, and I didn't even know, I thought there was something going on between them myself. The guy caught up in this thought that this trans lady was a complete stalkerish psycho. He didn't know that they were being trolled. One day, he told her straight out to stop fucking being all over him and clinging to him and that he wasn't interested. The trolls mocked her and laughed and had a great time at her expense. She attempted suicide. FOR REAL. I doubt those trolls would have even cared if she had died and that's what's so sad about all of this. People think that if they don't know someone in person, it takes away any responsibility for their bullying.

This all happened online in a chatroom. Please don't ever assume that trolling another human being is okay because you are doing it from behind your computer screen. Regardless of what you think of someones circumstances, every person deserves the basic respect of not being bullied.