Clingy Neighbors

[The Green Stranger]

Okay, so here's the deal. In high school I had a person that followed me around constantly. I was their friend but they kept track of me almost like a stalker.

In college, I had three people who always followed me no matter what. No matter what, they seemed to always get lucky and bump into me, so I would have to talk. I'm not a jerk, so I couldn't tell them to f**k off when I really wanted to.

Now I'm doing an internship and I have two of these people. I work 50+ hours a week and usually only get 1-2 days off a month, so I try to enjoy the little free time I do have. One of my neighbors has now made a point to constantly follow me around and then try to harass me into hanging out. Right now, he's been knocking on the door for five minutes and called me four times. I already told him I don't want to hang out.

Any idea on how to get away from the clingers? It is really annoying after putting up with this the past four years from different people. I would like to be able to relax in peace and not constantly be bothered by people like him.

 

[John]

That's stalking. I would threaten to call the police. If they do not stop after that, I would call the police and report stalking.

 

[Deathstarr]

Sometimes You just need to be the jerk and tell him to go away or do what I do open the door with a shotgun.

 

[erich]

^^ Agree, just tell them to piss off. Maybe a little more polite though.

 

[Black Angel]

I apologize if this is a dumb question, but have you tried sitting down with him and talking to him and being honest with him? If so, and he didn't understand or care, then fair enough.

If this is the case, then he might have some mental/emotional issues going on, however, I wouldn't be a jerk toward him, since it might exacerbate the situation.. but I would try to get a third party involved such as a parent or a mutual friend, etc., or if all else fails, the law.

Until then I would just stop taking his calls and block his texts (if you have a smart phone then there are plenty of apps for that my favorite app for Android is Call Guard (link) it is the best $2 I've ever spent although I see that it is $5 now..) and you also have these features within Android itself.

If you can, you could take a different route home or if possible change your schedule for a while and then switch back once you are certain that he has gotten the hint.

Anyway I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck. I know from personal experience how terrifying it is to be stalked.

In my case, I was about 12 at the time and my stalker was this mentally disabled man in his 40's that everyone in the neighborhood called "E.T." He was 40-ish but he looked like your average pimply-faced teenager and he followed me and my brother around constantly. I asked him to leave me alone and he wouldn't. He must have seen me walk into my building one day because every day after that he would be sitting in front of my building. I would see him whenever my mom sent me to the store and it got to the point where my brother (who was 6 at the time) was afraid of going outside.

I told his caretaker and she laughed and told me to just ignore it because he is "harmless" and said that he only follows me around because he likes me and thinks I am pretty and he told her that he wanted to make babies with me. I told her that I was 12 and that he was also scaring my little brother but she said he was harmless and said not to worry.

I ended up telling my mother who ended up sending us to our grandparents down south every Summer after that and she told my uncle who said he would take care of it. I don't know what he said or did, but I know that I never saw or heard from "E.T." again and neither did anyone else..

 

[Luke]

This guy used to constantly follow me wherever I was, he would be right behind me so much so that if I stopped he would smash into me. We were kinda friends, but he seemed to be a little bit "obsessive" I guess you could say.

One day I had enough of it so I murdered him told him to stop. Perhaps wasn't the kindest person about it... but at least it got rid of him.

 

[Vulture01]

I'm guessing your biggest problem is you are way to nice, you need to understand sometimes its necessity to be rude & that's what you have to be . Tell them to F off & if they won't stop then call a police .