A lot of people hate deadbeat dads. In fact, a place on the internet regularly posts memes mocking and ridiculing them. However, I have been accused of this stuff a lot and I can feel for a lot of guys who might be unjustly accused to various degrees. Well, we don't really know the whole story. I'm sure most men, who aren't complete monsters do have a heart for their kids, but perhaps they are too weak to really do what is right.
Deadbeat Dad Shaming
- Thread starter Jason76
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It's a case-by-case thing. If the person is truly being negligent and just not living up to their responsibilities, yeah, that's a deadbeat dad. If they are trying and just struggling, that's a different situation entirely, they aren't deadbeat, they're trying their est and things aren't working at the moment. Financially, my dad was there and did more than his fair share in paying for my sister and I growing up, but as a father he was distant, uncaring and always getting us into one mess or another. He's more of a deadbeat than a lot of deadbeat dads who get accused, and yet he would be considered a decent father by those measures.
I dislike deadbeat dads big time. I think it's just shameful and very inconsiderate of the father to not be in their kids life.
Yep, I see this all too often. These kind of dads I dislike and would never support. I also think it makes them a deadbeat whenever they would rather get high, do drugs, or drink over taking care of their family.
Agreed. They brought a life into this world, it's their job, their responsibility, to raise that life properly into a responsible adult human.
I do think there is a stigma surrounding deadbeat dads and many now assume that because the child is not in their care that they are a deadbeat dad whilst they could in actual fact be doing a lot more for their child/children than what people see.
Yes, I will admit there are deadbeat dads. My kids have a deadbeat Dad who doesn't do anything for them never asks about his kids, never asks to see them, and also recently had the child maintenance changed to directly pay me, paid twice, and then started ignoring me without any thought for his kids. This in my eyes is a deadbeat dad, I now have things moving for them to change to collect and pay so they will collect the money and send it to me but it's the principal. It's obvious that he doesn't care and his main reason for changing it in the first place was so he would get the fees back that they took. Basically used his kids to get money again which was normal for him. That is a deadbeat dad.
But not all fathers after a breakup are deadbeat dads and people need to stop assuming before they know the full story.
Yes, I will admit there are deadbeat dads. My kids have a deadbeat Dad who doesn't do anything for them never asks about his kids, never asks to see them, and also recently had the child maintenance changed to directly pay me, paid twice, and then started ignoring me without any thought for his kids. This in my eyes is a deadbeat dad, I now have things moving for them to change to collect and pay so they will collect the money and send it to me but it's the principal. It's obvious that he doesn't care and his main reason for changing it in the first place was so he would get the fees back that they took. Basically used his kids to get money again which was normal for him. That is a deadbeat dad.
But not all fathers after a breakup are deadbeat dads and people need to stop assuming before they know the full story.
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