Well, I have for a short-time, been the other woman unknowingly. It's not a great feeling, knowing that you've been fooled because you go to their restaurants or coffee shops often. More often than not, I start out as a regular customer there and the boss or the place's owner will notice how attractive I am and etc. I don't like you, I like the food and drink that you serve. Since I'm highly autistic, I don't really understand why they start giving me food and drinks for free and etc. Are there any signs that your partner is cheating on you in a relationship? Also, I'm pretty peeved by it, why is it always the other woman who is blamed for everything? I think the man in the equation is equally at fault.
Ever been the other "Woman" personally?
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I would go so far as to say the man in the equation is much more at fault, particularly in your case, since it was he who initiated the relationship, knowing full well what he was doing the entire time. I don't subscribe to the usual gendered assignment of fault in such things. And I'm sorry you went through it.
Unfortunately, there really are not hard-and-fast signs for any behavior like this, except to say that in general, if something is too good to be true, it is more likely that it is. You must put yourself in their shoes to see if you would react in this way - which I understand is more difficult for you as an autistic person. (My own relationship is non-standard, so I have my difficulties sometimes, too - though I've gotten fairly good at recognizing social cues through observation. One of the few advantages of getting older.)
Why do they think it's ok to cheat on their girlfriend/wife? It's puzzling for me personally.
Because it's a matter of prowess. They wish to "prove" themselves by having other women. Or they have problems in their relationships that they don't wish to resolve or acknowledge.
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