Falling in Love

[shamzblueworld]

i was thinking of this subject and wondering how many will you laugh or ignore this. anyways the topic is about love, which situation you think is love?
and there is a strong line between friendship(b/w two different sex) and love but is it really very different?
how often do you fall in love? have you ever? you want to?
please mention your sex in your reply to differ the concepts of male and female
this is just to start the topic. i m sure there will be lot more topics as this thread goes along

 

[Nebulous]

Love is when you can go to the bathroom without having to shut the door.
Love is looking like a total mess and not being self conscious about what the other person is thinking.
Love is not having to worry about being judged when you say or do something stupid.
😛

 

[Bossanova]

The only person to use Grievous as a name has to be a guy, so guess my gender. 😛

I've fallen into what I thought was true love 2 times..both times I ended up getting hurt badly..and I still am hurt over it. The 'love' was over the internet. Ironically, I still do flirt with girls over the net..even though I have no idea if they are who they say they are.

For me, I have allot of physical-medical related issues, and from my experience, girls only care for physical looks. So, I only go for girls online, because they'll at least talk to me, rather than just seeing what I look like and walking off.

An example, there is a female on this forum who is quite active who I like. So..in other words, I'm a pathetic broken man. 😛

 

[Nebulous]

girls only care for physical looks

Love is blind.

 

[shamzblueworld]

lol, grievous there is somewhat similarity between us but a little difference aswell. i too fell in true love(which i thoug while falling) but after some times it gets boring and dull. i mean i have a perfect girl for me she does whatever i tolds her she dont mind whatever i say(even sometime minds but only for few minutes) but then i m still looking for some one, how is that?
now some times i think maybe my true love will come but i also have very good time with the one i m from last 3 years maybe. now we are broken up though. very strange brake up too
its really messy though(my life)
but i m optimistic that maybe some one will come and turn the tables over
idk if this is in just tales or can happen in reality

 

[Bossanova]

she does whatever i tolds her

Sounds like you're the boss and she's the employee, correct? A relationship isn't supposed to be "do what I want woman!". It's supposed to be of caring and being compassionate.

It also sounds like you have more than one girl? Bad idea. Jerry Springer episode in the making.

 

[Nebulous]

Well just as fast as you could get swept up in love with someone..
You can get swept right out of it as well.
But as they say.. It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
And.. there is plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[Bejay]

i was thinking of this subject and wondering how many will you laugh or ignore this. anyways the topic is about love, which situation you think is love?
and there is a strong line between friendship(b/w two different sex) and love but is it really very different?
how often do you fall in love? have you ever? you want to?
please mention your sex in your reply to differ the concepts of male and female
this is just to start the topic. i m sure there will be lot more topics as this thread goes along

I ended up dating a girl that always wanted me to buy her stuff. 😳 I spent about 50 dollars on her and then I found out she was with another guy.

 

[shamzblueworld]

I ended up dating a girl that always wanted me to buy her stuff. 😳 I spent about 50 dollars on her and then I found out she was with another guy.

lol, thats very funny :lol: not much for you though
btw to answer grievous, well she is very happy leting me the boss of her's. its not that i m strict or anything like that its just very small thing, she really loves my i know this its just that my heart is still searching for some one.
you know when she is not with me(i often cry) and we have broke up but we still are together, i mean we chat on sms, and that the only possible communication between us in the past three years we have been together.
we both care for each other a lot, she even cries whenever i got injured playing sport,
but........

 

[Nebulous]

she does whatever i tolds her

Funny how when you were describing why she was the perfect girl, this is what you mentioned. :shake:

she is very happy leting me the boss of her's. its not that i m strict or anything

:shake: I dont know how things work in your country but in the rest of the world this is frowned upon.
A relationship is an equal partnership. Nobody is the boss.

 

[WasteD]

I have fallen in love several times, but it becomes dull and pointless to be with the guy when I found out he was not who I thought he was.

You are wrong if you thought women only look for physics. It is true that appearance attracts women more, but who doesn't ? I have dated guys that look good and tall, but that is not all to win women heart.. least that's not how you are goin to win mine 😛.

You have to actually show how much you care for her and how much she means to you. You cannot be too dominant in relationship. There's no you or me, but us. That should bring togetherness more than focusing on individual needs.


Oh you can't generalize sex based on your past experience. Just because your woman / guy cheats on you. Does not mean all will do the same thing. I have dated a guy that had trust issue over his past. He could not stand to see me talking to another guy and or getting way upset if I don't answer his calls. It was frustrating.

 

[Bossanova]

I ended up dating a girl that always wanted me to buy her stuff. 😳 I spent about 50 dollars on her and then I found out she was with another guy.

lol, thats very funny :lol: not much for you though

That really isn't funny, period.

btw to answer grievous, well she is very happy leting me the boss of her's. its not that i m strict or anything like that its just very small thing, she really loves my i know this its just that my heart is still searching for some one.

What you just said..you're with a girl that loves you, yet you said "my heart is still searching for someone". Doesn't sound fair at all.

you know when she is not with me(i often cry) and we have broke up but we still are together

You can't be broken up and still "together" (unless you agree on having sex only). You say you cry when you're not together, when you just said your heart is still searching for someone. So, you cry for someone you don't love?

we both care for each other a lot, she even cries whenever i got injured playing sport,
but........

You're still not making since. You care for her, but you don't love her..right? and there is no but to the situation. You either be a man, stay with her and give her the love she deserves, or break up and stop using her as a substitute until you find that "other someone" you speak of.

 

[shamzblueworld]

I dont know how things work in your country but in the rest of the world this is frowned upon.
A relationship is an equal partnership. Nobody is the boss.

yes it could be a religion thing, but we are equal and we stay like that. i m not boss of her, i just said that she does whatever i tell her to do and this is the same with me if she says something i will also do it no matter what, so we are equal in rights.

What you just said..you're with a girl that loves you, yet you said "my heart is still searching for someone". Doesn't sound fair at all.

i know its not, but i can't help it.

You can't be broken up and still "together" (unless you agree on having sex only). You say you cry when you're not together, when you just said your heart is still searching for someone. So, you cry for someone you don't love?

sex? no way before marriage. we are muslims and in Islam its like one of the biggest sins to have sex apart from having it with your wife.

You're still not making since. You care for her, but you don't love her..right? and there is no but to the situation. You either be a man, stay with her and give her the love she deserves, or break up and stop using her as a substitute until you find that "other someone" you speak of.

its more complicated then that. to show you a glimpse of that, she is engaged to her cousin, our parents can never let us marry each other nor they will marry us because we belong to different castes and this is one of the hugest setback in our community, the old folkes are really mad over this, they got this from indians because in Islam it has no value at all. but we were(i mean our grand grand grand...parents were hindu/sikh before) so we are together because we can not live happy alone or seprate from each other.

 

[Bossanova]

i know its not, but i can't help it.

That, is a big load of bull. Unless you have a big time mental illness, you can help it.

its more complicated then that. to show you a glimpse of that, she is engaged to her cousin.

so we are together because we can not live happy alone or seprate from each other.

She has her cousin..what does she need you for?

 

[shamzblueworld]

She has her cousin..what does she need you for?

she dont have him, her parents engaged her.
its really complicated, its hard for people from your part of the world to understand

edit:: and its not all about your needs

 

[Bossanova]

She has her cousin..what does she need you for?

she dont have him, her parents engaged her.
its really complicated, its hard for people from your part of the world to understand

edit:: and its not all about your needs

I understand people and their cultures, but when you bring it up about what goes on over where you are, expect us to question it. Who said anything about my needs? All I'm saying is, for 1, you're not supposed to be the boss of the girl, it's supposed to be an equal relationship. 2) You're with a girl who you apparently love, but yet you're searching for someone else, all the while, this girl was engaged to her cousin by her parents? You need to get rid of her then and leave her to her cousin. Go find this "other girl" of which you speak.

 

[shamzblueworld]

lol thats really easy to say
btw i didnt meant to write "your" in that edit line, i thought i wrote "our".
anyways, well i know i can get rid of her now and be a heartbroken, but what is our togetherness? we just sms after couple of days and talk some common things,
Now i think its better to close this topic and start the next one,
Next topic is "other girl"
well how do you find one? i mean you cant go search for it, but i really wanna be in a relationship(just friendship would also do at present) you know what i found in my ex-love is the best friendship but never found.
i feel love is just a feeling but friendship is a strong relation.
its a strong chance that you love your friend but it can be very rare that you are best friend of your love
thats just my view though,
to be continued...

 

[Kevin X Dragon]

I have the answer to all your problems. Leave your country with this girl and get married or forget about her.

 

[shamzblueworld]

aha great idea, but marry who? i dont want to marry some one my mom selects for me, and if i stay here well that probably whats gonna happen 😀
but i quest for my dream princess continues ....... 😀

 

[Zenrer]

Seriously, dont let your mum control your life, unless it is a religious matter, in which case I will take that back. Have you tried Internet Dating, it appears to be the new thing to do.