Falling in Love

[shamzblueworld]

well my mom is the best mom(and dont think its just because she is my mom) its not that she will made me marry someone, i meant that if i did not find anyone then i would have no reason to deny any marriage purposal. you know i cant just deny saying that i m looking for some one.
and to the second thing, well i really dont believe in that(internet dating) and i think its a bad idea and i dont know how people do that, it could be good if you are just playing around and having fun but not for a serious relationship.

 

[WasteD]

Arranged marriage is a pain in the butt. I have acknowledged the culture not only in middle east, but also in Asia. You should be married to someone you love and the one you'll spend the rest of your life with. Not someone your parents arranged for you to marry. I know they probably want to tighten their family strength hence why the cousin thing, but neither of you will find a happiness.

I would suggest for you to save your money, so you can move out and live on your own then find the girl you are searching for then maybe you can come back to introduce her to your parents.

 

[Zenrer]

well my mom is the best mom(and dont think its just because she is my mom) its not that she will made me marry someone, i meant that if i did not find anyone then i would have no reason to deny any marriage purposal. you know i cant just deny saying that i m looking for some one.
and to the second thing, well i really dont believe in that(internet dating) and i think its a bad idea and i dont know how people do that, it could be good if you are just playing around and having fun but not for a serious relationship.

If you are very close with her, then I think it would be great if she helped you, she is the older person, the more experienced of both of you, she could know who is right for you.

 

[shamzblueworld]

and what you think she ll fine some one for me to as a girlfriend? hell no
our culture is different. she is very close this means i can have a girlfriend and if i say she will marry us.
but i cant say to her to find me a girlfriend. i want to meet her or find her my myself or just by destiny or coincidence whatever you can call it.

 

[Bossanova]

Have you tried Internet Dating, it appears to be the new thing to do.

That, my pimped friend, is true.

if i say she will marry us.

"Marry us"?

 

[Callum93]

Seriously, dont let your mum control your life, unless it is a religious matter, in which case I will take that back. Have you tried Internet Dating, it appears to be the new thing to do.

Lol... encouraging internet dating :roll:

IMO it should be an absolute last resort.

 

[birdy]

lol... encouraging internet dating :roll:

IMO it should be an absolute last resort.

Why should it be - I don't agree at all, you can learn so much from people if you chat on line and if you click and want to take it further you have found out their interests whether you agree on things exchanged photos - maybe talked on the phone etc.

Far better than meeting in a bar and finding out 8 weeks down the line that the person has nothing in common with you. :shrug:

 

[Callum93]

lol... encouraging internet dating :roll:

IMO it should be an absolute last resort.

Why should it be - I don't agree at all, you can learn so much from people if you chat on line and if you click and want to take it further you have found out their interests whether you agree on things exchanged photos - maybe talked on the phone etc.

Far better than meeting in a bar and finding out 8 weeks down the line that the person has nothing in common with you. :shrug:

Lol... people can make up any old bullshit on the internet. I don't have a problem with it as such though I do think you should try RL first instead of over a computer.

 

[birdy]

You know you can learn so much from talking to someone - I am not talking about them saying what they do or what they have etc just the personality of the person shows thru it all.

 

[Callum93]

You know you can learn so much from talking to someone - I am not talking about them saying what they do or what they have etc just the personality of the person shows thru it all.

You've obviously had good experience of internet dating. I could go on about the drawbacks of it but I'll end up sounding like I work for the Daily Express...

It doesn't show much though through a computer screen... you can bullshit ANYTHING through a computer screen.

 

[Relmitos]

Internet dating could result in a real date too. perhaps you'll even get laid for a change Sbfc Should try it out before you judge it.

 

[birdy]

Not talking about dating and NO I have not Sbfc - I am saying you can tell who you would possible have a chance of getting on with via chatting online.

 

[Mike]

I've never "Fallen in love" so to speak, i've only ever had a strong crush on someone, after getting to know them on a friendly basis, loving their personality, how they look etc - But then it's alway's heartbreaking as well, i'm gay - these people i have a crush on are straight, so nothings ever going to come of it.

As for your issue with Arranged marriage, the relationship i have with my mum is that if i ever didn't want to do something so badly, she wouldn't put me through it - I know it's a different culture where you are, but if you put across a strong argument, maybe she'll listen.

 

[Callum93]

@Relmitos: I'm 16... so even if I wanted to no point until I'm 18.
@birdy: Well as the subject was eDating... I thought you were, my bad 😛
@CMM: You have never met him 😉 😛

 

[cityStatic]

I've never "Fallen in love" so to speak, i've only ever had a strong crush on someone, after getting to know them on a friendly basis, loving their personality, how they look etc - But then it's alway's heartbreaking as well, i'm gay - these people i have a crush on are straight, so nothings ever going to come of it.

As for your issue with Arranged marriage, the relationship i have with my mum is that if i ever didn't want to do something so badly, she wouldn't put me through it - I know it's a different culture where you are, but if you put across a strong argument, maybe she'll listen.

Don't take this the wrong way, but I congratulate you for admitting it. It would be hard to admit it, IMO.

 

[Relmitos]

Well when you do turn 18 you know where to go to.

 

[Mike]

@CMM: You have never met him 😉 😛

The person i'm speaking about is in my class, the person you thought i was talking about is just a fantasy 😛

And citystatic, the only person i've ever admitted it to is myself, so not really worth congratulating, as i haven't had the guts to tell anyone else :shrug: Which is mainly why i can't see myself having any love in my life for a while

 

[Relmitos]

Wich might the best thing to do untill your out of school

 

[shamzblueworld]

well i m not that against internet dating as long as its not from the dating sites(if you know what i m talking about) i dont believe a person would goto those websites for finding its soul mate. But if you found some one on another site, lets say FP, then no problem in talking and then maybe going for a strong relationship.

 

[Bossanova]

well i m not that against internet dating as long as its not from the dating sites(if you know what i m talking about) i dont believe a person would goto those websites for finding its soul mate. But if you found some one on another site, lets say FP, then no problem in talking and then maybe going for a strong relationship.

I kind of agree, however, those dating sites like E-harmony sometimes do work. I, personally prefer looking on Myspace and the countless forums I go on.