FP, I turn to you. Times are tough.

[Ghost]

Times are tough right now. I have decided to let the community in on it as I have turned to you all before and received some help.

For those of you that may be worrying; My life is not in danger. I am emotionally okay and stable.
However, my friend is not.

In short, my friend is going through a tough time with a break up and his family isn't very helpful. Well they try to be, but he does everything he can to ruin his relationships with them.
The result is that he has made MULTIPLE attempts to overdose, and is seriously contemplating suicide through other ways (hanging, etc.)
He has cut himself multiple times and on top of that is drinking and drugging himself to the point of not walking, throwing up, and making no sense.
When he IS sober he still does not make sense.

The problem I am having is that I, and a lot of others, are fed up with the BS. We are very annoyed with the constant babysitting that is required just to make sure he does not kill himself. The thing is is that he will even make attempts when we ARE there or even 20 minutes after we leave.

Now, I don't know what you guys can do. I am not looking for motivational speeches or long responses. If anything I am hoping that someone here may have experience with things like this.

I myself have had friends die, and family too. I have been around suicidal people before. However, I have never been this involved in the situations leading up to what I hope will never happen (death by suicide).

This is causing me a lot of stress though, that's for sure. But it is okay FP, I will act rational and I will stick around here and my own site.

-Ghost

 

[Pvt_Tracy]

I don't want to sound harsh but maybe it is time to invoke some "tough love." If he is doing all of that then he should be put in a mental institution.

 

[Ghost]

That's exactly what he needs. I have called the cops on him twice now. The first time he got apprehended, but he made his way home.

Last night, the latest attempt, he got brought to the hospital for an evaluation. Unfortunately though if a person claims to not want to hurt themselves or anyone else, they cannot be held. Unless parents take a stance.

 

[pandaa]

Is he under 18? Because his parents would have so much more jurisdictition over him, which could be good and bad.

My wishes go out to him and you. I've had several friends and family members commit suicide, and as you know, it's not the only option. I know it sounds cliche, but there's so much more to life. Just keep reminding him of this, and spend all the time with him you can. The more than he can keep his mind off it, the better.

 

[Fergal]

It really sounds as if he needs professional help. Are there any organisations in your area that you could call on his behalf and ask for suggestions?

Have a look at this website http://www.samaritans.org/ they provide support in the UK and Ireland. Hopefully there is some kind of charity like that in your area that you could contact.

http://www.aware.ie is another site you could look at. Again it's Irish but perhaps it can still help you or give you ideas as to who you might contact in your area.

I hope that it all works out.

 

[Poopy Head]

Good luck to you on solving this horrible problem. D:

Have you done anything to prevent him from doing anything yet?

 

[Ghost]

Thanks for the support everyone. Yeah I have called the cops and spoken to his parents and grandparents. He is getting better but the breakup with his girl is still tripping him up a lot. He doesn't know what to do so it is rather frightening. I just don't wnt to get a phone call saying he has died one day.

I want him to go to a facility but his dad won't put him in one. He's gone for psych evaluations when I've called the cops but he's always out of the hospital after a few hours.

 

[legalize]

He does know there's more than 1 girl in this world?

 

[Tindris]

He does know there's more than 1 girl in this world?

As far as I can tell this is more than just a girl, the breakup is just the trigger. The problem with an issue like this is making people want to feel better, it isn't something that you can understand if you haven't been there yourself or know of it in detail, for example it has happened to a close friend.

The hardest problem to overcome is getting the person to want to feel better due to the fact that a depression, which is what this is, takes over the persons entire life. Everything they do, think and say revolves around or is affected by their condition. Without it they feel empty and lost, this leaves a feeling of wanting to keep it as it is the only reality they know. Compare it to you moving away from everything you know, to the other side of the world for example. You have to start again with life, language an everything. Even that doesn't come close to explaining what sort of feelings are going through a depressed persons head...

 

[Ghost]

Sorry I have not replied sooner. My friend has gone to rehab for the next 100 days. He is safe.

Thank you to everyone who has been so helpful with this. I truly appreciate it.

 

[remonray]

He does know there's more than 1 girl in this world?

But there is only one girl made for a man 😛 like 1dragon per avatar(avatar movie)

 

[Ghost]

Yeah he knows that legalize obviously...but he's in loveydoveyworld. We'll see how he does.

 

[legalize]

He does know there's more than 1 girl in this world?

As far as I can tell this is more than just a girl, the breakup is just the trigger. The problem with an issue like this is making people want to feel better, it isn't something that you can understand if you haven't been there yourself or know of it in detail, for example it has happened to a close friend.

The hardest problem to overcome is getting the person to want to feel better due to the fact that a depression, which is what this is, takes over the persons entire life. Everything they do, think and say revolves around or is affected by their condition. Without it they feel empty and lost, this leaves a feeling of wanting to keep it as it is the only reality they know. Compare it to you moving away from everything you know, to the other side of the world for example. You have to start again with life, language an everything. Even that doesn't come close to explaining what sort of feelings are going through a depressed persons head...

Very well said, not sure why I was so insensitive to the issue... Guess didn't realize the seriousness.

Good luck to your friend!