For those of you that are single, have you thought about getting married? Or is the married life not for you?
The married life is not for me. I'm way too independent and I like having my freedom to do whatever and whenever I want. I tell my family if I do get married it won't be until I'm old 😀
My girlfriend knows this and she is actually fine with it.
I have noticed that marriage is getting unpopular. In the olden days, a single girl at age 25 is already frantic and wishing to get married. That's also the case when a girl gets pregnant, marriage is a must. But now the pregnant girl is even the one who declines marriage. In other words, babies are being born by a single mother who is proud to be single.
Well, like the dude above me said, not many people are concerned about marriage and many teens no longer care or do they want to get into marriage, they are now interested in baby mamas. because most of us don't want to get hooked with a girl, and get tied down, without enjoying the many accolades that comes with being single.
Whenever i remember about marriage i SMH, because finding the right girl, seems like pushing a camel through a needle
I am still looking. And even though I have my expectations of the type of person I would marry, I am willing to atleast compromise on a couple of issues, if I find someone that is close enough to what I want as a spouse.
I've been married for 10 years now. Its not always easy. You make a lot of mistakes along the way and you have to pick and choose your battles. The longer you're with someone, the easier it gets. Because than you know what does or doesn't bother them, you know their habits, and they become like your family.
Part of why people aren't getting married like they used to is because they've realised that marriage isn't such a great thing for men. Not since the no-fault divorce laws were introduced anyway. Since then divorce has been used to screw people (usually men) out of money, property and possessions. (Since, barring pre-nuptials, everything going into a marriage becomes joint after a set period of time. Which means even if the woman contributed nothing to the marriage, she can leave and take half his stuff. It usually doesn't go the other way because, in general, women marry upwards. They marry more successful men rather than less successful. But in those rare cases where the woman is more successful then yes men can sometimes get some of the stuff. Though it's no guarantee.)
Which means for many men marriage is little more than a gamble. Essentially: "Is this woman, who claims to love me now, going to get bored of me in 2 years and ruin me just because she can? Does she love me for me or for what I can provide?"
And the sad part is that there are women out there who do this. And if there are children involved then it's even worse. There are some women that will use children in any way they can to get ahead. Children can easily become a weapon in divorce proceedings.
