How do you feel about tightwads that don't want to spend any money on anyone or anything no matter how cheap or beneficial that it is?
I'm not saying money is important in family and relationships. But it helps. I think it's one thing to spend money and not afford it and another to have a really good job and afford to spend it within reason. If you have kids, you'll have to spend money on their needs and their happiness. You're going to die someday. Might as well spend for your happiness too.
My father was a tightwad. Both of my biological parents have been divorced for 31 years. My mother had complained about how stingy he was in the past. He had my mother buy me everything. When I was 12, I went to live with him for 3 years, and he made my mother pay him child support when she never could get a dime out of him. That money was never spent on me, it went towards his wife's grand children and just to piss me off. She'd brag about it.
He was a college professor and he made really good money. He would never buy me clothes when I was a kid. Once he had no choice but to buy me shoes. He took me to Wal-Mart and bought me the cheapest and shittiest looking shoes he could find. Yes, I wore them. He preferably spent money on what he felt it was convenient for, like whiskey and beer. When I was a kid, he used to be my hero. Instead at the age of 14. I'd learn that he was nothing more than the biggest piece of shit in my world. He just wanted me to live with him so he didn't have to pay my mother. He treated me like dirt most of time and made me resent him.
So because of him and my experience. I look down on tightwads that whine about having to spend any money on their kids and loved ones. Not just that, but I have surpassed him in being a better father. I'm much more giving towards my children then he ever was.
I'm not saying money is important in family and relationships. But it helps. I think it's one thing to spend money and not afford it and another to have a really good job and afford to spend it within reason. If you have kids, you'll have to spend money on their needs and their happiness. You're going to die someday. Might as well spend for your happiness too.
My father was a tightwad. Both of my biological parents have been divorced for 31 years. My mother had complained about how stingy he was in the past. He had my mother buy me everything. When I was 12, I went to live with him for 3 years, and he made my mother pay him child support when she never could get a dime out of him. That money was never spent on me, it went towards his wife's grand children and just to piss me off. She'd brag about it.
He was a college professor and he made really good money. He would never buy me clothes when I was a kid. Once he had no choice but to buy me shoes. He took me to Wal-Mart and bought me the cheapest and shittiest looking shoes he could find. Yes, I wore them. He preferably spent money on what he felt it was convenient for, like whiskey and beer. When I was a kid, he used to be my hero. Instead at the age of 14. I'd learn that he was nothing more than the biggest piece of shit in my world. He just wanted me to live with him so he didn't have to pay my mother. He treated me like dirt most of time and made me resent him.
So because of him and my experience. I look down on tightwads that whine about having to spend any money on their kids and loved ones. Not just that, but I have surpassed him in being a better father. I'm much more giving towards my children then he ever was.
Last edited by a moderator:
