How strict are you on your forums? Like, do you allow swearing, do you allow small fights between members, etc.
On Promotion Box, I try and make the forums really welcoming. We're pretty lax, but I do not allow any sort of fighting between members, and there are a few rules that I deal with with an iron fist 🙂
I'm really not strict at all. I allow cursing without too much of an issue. (Though if someone's entire post is all cursing then I'll step in. )
As for fighting, this depends on where/how it's happening and what level of fighting (I mean there is a difference between a disagreement and a fight and I'm not going to jump into a disagreement unless it really escalates). Like if it's happening in a topic where the people are writing some characters doing the arguing? I'm not intervening at all because there is no issue here. And likely the people writing the topic have an idea how they want this to play out already.
If this arguing/fighting really badly and it were going on in a non-story topic then I'd lock the topic (move it to a staff only section) and send them both a PM letting them know that the arguing can't continue like that. If it kept up from there then I'd issue some suspensions.
If the people were arguing/fighting in the chatbox then I'd step in and try to defuse the situation. If things won't stop then I start deleting messages and issuing temp bans.
I try to to make the users feel at home with the forum, so I try not to be too strict by doing things like e.g. not letting people excessively swear, etc. I think I'm just like any other person who runs a forum. 😛
I am a lax admin. I allow swearing, but also have an optional word filter that can be switched on from the UserCP. Best of both worlds. 😀
As for fighting I allow people to debate/argue but will step in and lock the topic/hand out warnings when it gets too out of hand. This doesn't happen often though. 🙂
Well as long as no one crosses the line, spams the forum with hate speeches or calling people out for no particular reason. Just a basic code of conduct should be established