So a few of my best female friends' current boyfriends are in love with me, or have crushes on me. I can't really ignore them or block them because they're my best female friends' current boyfriends and I'm friends with them. A waiter at 2nd cup has a crush on me because he says the added flavour is on him always and it's a "secret" between the both of us. My best female friends know that their boyfriends have feelings for me personally. I feel sandwiched between them. I'm this close to blocking them all and not having any friends again and being back to being alone and anti-social.
I am personally a Boyfriends Stealer!
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Since you're friends with the boyfriends they probably are aware that you have no interest in attachments like that so I bet you're safe from any advancements by them 🙂
Could the waiter be looking for a bigger tip? I know when my friends and I go out that the male waiters are really flirty.
Could the waiter be looking for a bigger tip? I know when my friends and I go out that the male waiters are really flirty.
I had a lady bartender flirt with me. Not necessarily with the drink, but hey I noticed it. 😉 I wish I had another day to up my game on that. I didn't have a phone, just a camera.
But I don't know why @Naiwen feels bothered by having too many interested suitors. If I was a woman, and I had that many interested suitors, I'd be chatting them up. Not caring about the women who feel threatened. 😕
C'mon now... you mean to tell me not even the bartender is interesting or have feelings for?
Chica, at least ONE person you have intended to date is single, and looking. Go. Nobody's judging you. I mean, outside of having them cheat, with you. I mean, at least one person is interested and single. The bartender sounds single.
What's the matta?
As someone who gets hit on a lot...it's really actually annoying. Men think they're doing me a favor by flirting with me?
Naiwen has posted before that she's asexual so she's obviously not going to be interested in those guys.
Oh. Sorry... but how could ladies not be flattered!? What if I flirted with you, @Lämmchen? Would you repel me?
I'm not flirting, just so we clear.. just a question.
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It's best not to group women as one person, every person is unique. Not all women like to be hit on or flirted with. Lammchen even stated that she finds it annoying so why even bother asking that question?
"How is that annoying, shouldn't you feel flattered?" is a better way to say it? I was not grouping her with others, but there must be something that's specific about the annoyance? So, we're back at the question of: What if a nice, good dude like myself hit on you...? (I'm a guy, I'm talking about women here.)
I understand being annoyed by how one man is bothering her by a persistent advance (ahem, can also be taken as harassment), and a consistent group of people flirting with her (like the OP). But, let's for the sake of conversation - what about the guy who is genuinely interested?
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Well, they shouldn't have to be flattered. The point is they have expressed that they are uncomfortable with it. Like @Ozzy47 mentioned each person has their different views and feelings, Lammchen and Naiwen have both stated they didn't like it. So that's it case closed.
Got my man repellent right here!
Ha, some guys look for that and pressure the woman even harder.
Touche. Touche.Got my man repellent right here!
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Got my man repellent right here!
That doesn't stop some men unfortunately.
As a man, some men really do let the side down which is a real shame.
Ah. I see.
Now, I'd be judging HIM. Yeah. I'd just cut all communications. Its just, I thought the bartender was single. This is too much drama.
I pressed "haha" reaction, because I actually believe this and think "haha, what an idiot." (Not at you, but those who chase married women.)
If a woman is married, that's it, dude. Just go off into "Cowabunga!"
Yes, that includes me, but I'm not going to flirt with someone who's married, or someone who has a relationship. It's hard when people don't tell you they're taken.
Sigh. I have been in this "hard-to-get" flirt-fest before, and its fun, but you never know or necessarily know her stand, status, or whatever. I like it, but the constant thinking hurts. It puts me into a depressed state.
I want this fun, but its just too much work with little reward.
Men: Don't flirt with women who have this mindset and have a third or fourth party situation. You can be shot or beat up. I been there. It resulted in the man getting jealous, and breaking up with the woman in the middle.
I dodged this bullet.
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