I'm leaving! threads

[Nebulous]

Have you ever seen someone post publicly telling the forum community that they are leaving?

Did they actually leave? Was it over forum drama or personal issues?

Do you think people who publicly announce they are leaving a forum are just looking for attention and want to watch all the reactions that follow?

 

[Eclipse]

Have you ever seen someone post publicly telling the forum community that they are leaving?

Did they actually leave? Was it over forum drama or personal issues?

Do you think people who publicly announce they are leaving a forum are just looking for attention and want to watch all the reactions that follow?

I've seen this in the past, more so when forums were really popular and members were coming and going

I never really understood leaving threads, unless it's a member of staff and there's something serious happening in real life that hinders them from being active

I think it's more often than not for attention 🤷‍♂️

 

[Linzii]

On forums where I've been staff in the past, people who were more a bit less... stable (I guess) from the community tended to announce they were leaving because they wanted to see what other people would say and if they would ask them not to leave. I remember one girl who had a lot of mental health problems who would say she was leaving every so often but would change her mind pretty quickly when she realized that people did not want her to leave. I guess that I try to be understanding and aware of the fact that people tend to do things for a reason or try to meet their emotional needs in less than orthodox ways when they are not feeling accepted. Nonetheless, it can be hard to have patience in some of these cases.

 

[Deleted member 49125]

I don't see it as much anymore. People just tend to leave without a word. I have seen a few say that they are having family issues so won't be on much but then they leave. Then there are others like @Eclipse @Linzii mentioned, those that make a big deal out of leaving & tend to still lurk in the shadows.

 

[Katrina]

I always hated seeing those threads! We started trashing some of them on Christianity Haven because they became disruptive and were never for the good of the community.

 

[zappaDPJ]

I get about one of those posts every ten years on the forums I own but I've seen more on the forums that I admin.

It always seems to happen because a member posted something that the leaver didn't agree with but it usually wasn't even aimed at them. It's a type of behavior that I've never understood and they rarely come back.

 

[Shawn Gossman]

I may or may not remove them.

If the reason is legit and the member is active in the community, I'd probably leave it up.

A good example may be the member is sick and might not be around much longer.

But, if it's drama because of getting disciplined for a violation, some sort of confrontation... I will remove the post and suspend the member's ability to post again unless posts are reviewed and approved.

The best thing to do is try to stop the drama before it continues to spread because we all know drama spreads like wildfire on forums!

 

[Linzii]

I always hated seeing those threads! We started trashing some of them on Christianity Haven because they became disruptive and were never for the good of the community.

Do you think that it's ever possible for such threads to be a net positive for the community, assuming they are done in good faith?

 

[Page]

personly I have not seen a goodbye leaving thread on my end on the sites that I have been a mod or owner for, Yet as a member, I have seen threads about it from members or staff members of that forum.

Makes sense if a staff member of that forum has left or no longer can be a staff member who would then post about it, But as a member, they do not need to so soo, they leave whenever. End of the day I do not want people posting like that, I rather them making hello threads then welcome back threads then leave threads as other people would read them and start thinking about it themselves and it might be bad input.

Nowadays that people come an go and they just feel free and post nothing about it, and that's good.

 

[Kale]

It's attention seeking most of the time and they 9 times out of 10 never leave.

 

[Ravenfreak]

I used to see this more back in the day when forums were more popular. I recall even making one when I was 16 and on the first forum I ever joined... though in my case I knew that I wasn't going to have internet access for a while and was pretty upset about it. I think they're completely pointless though.

 

[MrDawn]

I've been guilty of this. But 9 times out of 10 I've had my account deleted by a administrator on those communities and never returned. I had this done on a community I was part of for over 6 years. I didn't make a dramatic post. I just messaged the lead staff member. I guess it was good timing because the forum went under almost a year after I left.

 

[Page]

I've been guilty of this. But 9 times out of 10 I've had my account deleted by a administrator on those communities and never returned. I had this done on a community I was part of for over 6 years. I didn't make a dramatic post. I just messaged the lead staff member. I guess it was good timing because the forum went under almost a year after I left.

Most of the time your content is still there anyway, your account gets removed but your content stays with the username says guest or user deleted

 

[Shortie_]

It's not very often I see people post a thread announcing that they are leaving the forum but I have on at least two occasions seen it, one on a forum I used to own and another on another forum I was a regular member of. Both times it was because of forum drama that they were causing and they took it to heart when they were warned about their actions on the forum. Usually, they post up a leaving thread in hopes they get sympathy but in most cases, if they are causing trouble on the forums, people would much rather they leave than stick around. I usually do not give them any attention when they post the thread as I feel that only gives them what they want.