iRelationships, also eLove

[DarkRaven]

Don't you love it guys when two members on your forum start ''dating'' over your forum. Of course it's not exactly over the forum, they generally take it over AIM or MSN, but they are two members of your forum. The rest of your memberbase find it faintly amusing of course and then they become the target of mild slagging. Nothing major of course.

But then the day comes when they break up. (Shock Horror) They find that a relationship built online is not meaningful enough. (I never would have guessed) And the best part is this, one of them inevitably leave (I cannot bear to be around that bitch Heidi anymore/I can never bear to be around that jerk James). The ''emotional'' breakup becomes the source of much heated argument around the off topic section and in the end the staff clamp down. Of course there has to be one or two other people who claim that the staff are so ''insensitive'' for not wanting to read their soap opera and inevitably leave. By the time it's done you've lost about three active members and you begin to ask the question: ''why?''

 

[Justin]

lol seriously! Although the staff does get to sit back and have a good laugh 😛

 

[WasteD]

I'm aware of this type of thing.. I've witnessed a lot emotional breakups.. I personally think they shouldn't have taken it to the site. I mean it's their personal issues, they should have kept it between the two...besides Irelationship hardly ever work imo... you will never know who is the person behind the computer that you are talking to other than text, pics, and cam ( if they have any ).


I have had my experience on Irelationships, which I don't consider it that way because we met in real life.. been going for about 2 months and it just didnt seem to work because of many reasons.

1. He lives far away and he can only visit me twice a month, which is very stressful and tiring.
2. You're about to find out that he/she is not what you thought she/he could be
3. Money.. well he came here on his own free will but sometimes the whole buying expensive ticket is one of the argument that we had recently.

at the end, both of us just had it.. it was not exactly what we wanted it to be.
I still see him on forums and we're still friendly to each other.

 

[Brack]

One rule I have is that members are not to treat the forum as a dating site.

One person was banned for doing so.

 

[Nebulous]

Ive seen a male/female admin team on a forum before, where the female admin runs a muck around the forum and bullies /harass's everyone she doesn't like. Then when people have a problem with it, she tells them to report her to the other admin. Funny thing is, he wont do a thing because his "eLove" for her wont allow him to see that she is ruining his forum.
:lol:

 

[USHost247]

That's a pretty bad thing about what theezy said. But yes, I would tell them to take it elsewhere, such as instant messenger or something.

 

[Ascent]

It's so pathetic.

/thread

 

[Watch Me Sink]

Is iRelationships and eLove related to oDates or uSex?

 

[Kaynil]

I've seen a bit of everything when it comes to eLove around boards. It is disastrous when other members 'take sides' after the break-up, if it happens.

However I've seen a few one successful enough, and it is good some people are mature enough to tone it down and treat the relationship in a serious way, with true compromise and sincerity.

 

[DarkRaven]

eLove will only work if they take the ''e'' out of the ''eLove''. Two admins of a forum I'm on were going out online and realised that they were in the same University. That's the only one that I've ever seen work.

 

[Callum93]

Don't you love it guys when two members on your forum start ''dating'' over your forum. Of course it's not exactly over the forum, they generally take it over AIM or MSN, but they are two members of your forum. The rest of your memberbase find it faintly amusing of course and then they become the target of mild slagging. Nothing major of course.

But then the day comes when they break up. (Shock Horror) They find that a relationship built online is not meaningful enough. (I never would have guessed) And the best part is this, one of them inevitably leave (I cannot bear to be around that bitch Heidi anymore/I can never bear to be around that jerk James). The ''emotional'' breakup becomes the source of much heated argument around the off topic section and in the end the staff clamp down. Of course there has to be one or two other people who claim that the staff are so ''insensitive'' for not wanting to read their soap opera and inevitably leave. By the time it's done you've lost about three active members and you begin to ask the question: ''why?''

Depends what genre of forum it is. On a forum like this though it's really f*cking sad and desparate.

 

[Bluezone777]

It's pretty safe to assume no one in this thread has any experience with it so not sure why anyone would listen to any of these opinions on it.

If anything, it looks like this thread was here just to slag off on people who chosen to date over the net.

I personally have no experience in dating over the net but I also don't think of anyone differently who has chosen to do this as I know several who have.

This thread reminds me of how people used to treat interracial marriage and how they treat gay marriage today. The thought that people could fall in love and marry who were not just like them aka same color skin/of the same gender is seen as laughable and they proceed to laugh at them not out of an actual validated reason but simply because they don't understand what went behind the choices that were made that made two fall in love.

 

[Montrose]

It's pretty safe to assume no one in this thread has any experience with it so not sure why anyone would listen to any of these opinions on it.

If anything, it looks like this thread was here just to slag off on people who chosen to date over the net.

I personally have no experience in dating over the net but I also don't think of anyone differently who has chosen to do this as I know several who have.

This thread reminds me of how people used to treat interracial marriage and how they treat gay marriage today. The thought that people could fall in love and marry who were not just like them aka same color skin/of the same gender is seen as laughable and they proceed to laugh at them not out of an actual validated reason but simply because they don't understand what went behind the choices that were made that made two fall in love.

Finally, we have a voice of reason in this thread! Well said Bluezone!

 

[DarkRaven]

Well I've lost members on my forum due to the drama that they bring and from what I've seen of it, it only leads to heartbreak. And all of the first hand accounts I've read and indeed heard of it claim so - including what that pair told me. As I said - elove only works if you take the 'e' out of the 'elove' as per Allison and Tim, administrators of Inheritanceforums.com (Tim actually resigned due to college commitments, they are still together though).

I don't understand your anger Bluezone777. I lost a bunch of regular members due to it and I believe that I'm right to be angry for that pair for taking their drama my forum. MSN and AIM are there for a reason.

 

[golfbunny]

I know of two individuals who met as administrators on a forum I once participated in and are now happily married in LA.

 

[Nebulous]

One of my previous girlfriends I met on myspace. We didnt chat that long before we met up though. We lived in the same town.

This lady at my work met her husband on eharmony.com and they have been happily married for a few years now. She has told me that when she tells others how she met her husband, some people give her weird looks or make not-so-positive comments.

 

[Bejay]

I did it once but it wasn't too serious. We were like more than best mates. lol

 

[Montrose]

Well I've lost members on my forum due to the drama that they bring and from what I've seen of it, it only leads to heartbreak. And all of the first hand accounts I've read and indeed heard of it claim so - including what that pair told me. As I said - elove only works if you take the 'e' out of the 'elove' as per Allison and Tim, administrators of Inheritanceforums.com (Tim actually resigned due to college commitments, they are still together though).

I don't understand your anger Bluezone777. I lost a bunch of regular members due to it and I believe that I'm right to be angry for that pair for taking their drama my forum. MSN and AIM are there for a reason.

I don't think Bluezone777 is angry or that his post came across that way. It is a well written and balanced post that hasn't slated anyone.

There is plenty of examples in this thread of 'elove' actually working out, including one from yourself. So it would be foolish to say that all 'iRelationships' are the same as the one witnessed on your forum.

 

[Bluezone777]

lol not angry at all just disappointed that I am seeing such a thread as it looks like someone just posted it to slag off people who chosen to date online.

Just because you had a bad experience doesn't meant that ALL of them are going to be that way. It's a common mistake a lot of people do with lots of things because they think their bad experience translates into it happening every time with everyone who goes that route or has someone they know choosing to date online which is just not the case.

If people leave your forum for things not in your control then how dedicated were they in the first place?

 

[Xarina]

I'm in a relationship such as that and to be honest I don't think I make any big fuss about it. I usually just have to defend my feelings and I don't mind doing that. I try to keep it at a minimum at the board, at least the bad parts, since those we can take in private. I don't think me and my guy bothers anyone but the trolls looking to troll us for it. We're both adults enough to not take it out on the board.

It does make me wonder how old those peeps on your board are >.<