Kids and Physical Discipline

[SettledHate.]

Okay, so if you look at my post regarding my step father, you will pretty much know the follow-up to this topic.

Do you think it is (in any way) right to hit kids when they've done the wrong?

For quick reference, here is what I posted about my step dad:

Yesterday at about 5:30pm I had a punch-up with my Step Dad, he left with my little sister and I left, too. To this morning, he is still not back but he called mum and said he would be back tomorrow. Like what the hell! It was over something trivial like "Did you break this, Zane" "No..." *punch* (to me).

He is an idiot, I hate him. Glad I punched him a few back. He was surprised, though.

The ONLY reason he didn't fight back was because I told him (and he knew it, too) "You hit me back, and you'll have ALL of Morayfield, Caboolture and Narangba after you - you wanna risk it b****!?"

 

[Nebulous]

Well there is a difference between spanking and punching.
Spanking a child who has done wrong is fine (as long as its not really hard and done while angry).
Punching a child is abuse though.

 

[katy perry is hot]

I'm fine with spanking or smacking a kid across the face to get them in line. Punching however is fully and totally unacceptable under any circumstance.

 

[SettledHate.]

I agree, whilst smacking is wrong, it is still justified and acceptable on SOME occasion. Though punching, indeed, is wrong. Hence why I stood up for what I believed in.

 

[NBK*Twitch]

I'm fine with spanking or smacking a kid across the face to get them in line. Punching however is fully and totally unacceptable under any circumstance.

Agreed. I do dislike how parents are afraid of their own children so much where they will not disapline them.

It really makes me wonder wtf is wrong with people..

Some say it will make the child have a worse future mentally,but I disagree as I got my butt beat many times. I am not messed up... Hell if it weren't for me getting punishment I would probably be worse then I am.(and i get told im good so stfu lol)

 

[PurpleCrow]

I think smacking or a cuff round the ear sort of thing is fine in certain situations but hitting/punching or anything that will leave a mark is wrong.

I wasnt ever smacked or anything, not that I can remember but I once had soap shoved into my mouth when I swore at my mum. Ohh and when I was little, I bit my mum, so she bit me back and I never bit anyone again!

 

[bekah]

no punching kids in this house. hitting accross the but is a good teaching lesson, it helped me 😀

 

[USHost247]

My ex girlfriend (Still very best friend) has had this problem before. I solved the problem by getting her out of her home for like 2 months to live with my grandmother and then she went back home cause her parents found out what it is like not having her and what they lost for 2 months.

but hitting a child across the face (smacking, punching, etc) is abuse and should be reported. Spanking across the bottom is an okay discipline when a child has done wrong in my opinion.

 

[katy perry is hot]

I don't see how smacking on the face is abuse. I've deserved a smack on the face from my parents plenty of times, and you better be sure I got it.

 

[David]

The face holds some of the most sensitive nerves. Constant slapping across the face will cause future long term facial and brain damage. Unless you want to give them a punishment like that, you shouldn't really slap their face.

On the butt is more common, and appropriate for some cases. Sometimes a firm word will keep them in line.

 

[Oaerkae]

I'd never hit/punch/smack/spank a kid. It's not an effective discipline, it makes them angrier at you, and even if you spank lightly, they could remember it and hold it against you.

Besides that, I consider it wrong.

The better discipline is will, not force. There's a long line of things you can do so that your kid respects you, never being hypocritical, or contradictory, firm but not angry, being logical, explaining, reasoning. Among other things. Following basic ideas like that throughout a kid's childhood does more than hitting can.

Hitting is just a frustrated form of punishment.
A kid does not see hitting as a discipline, or as a way of saying "don't do this", but as a punishment for something that may not of been very important. It's just not that effective, and parents always say "don't fight", or "don't hit each other", but then they hit their kid. It's hypocritical, and even though kids can be hypocritical sometimes as well, they still see hypocrisy, and they ignore hypocritical discipline.

 

[RandumbProd]

I'd never hit/punch/smack/spank a kid. It's not an effective discipline, it makes them angrier at you, and even if you spank lightly, they could remember it and hold it against you.

Besides that, I consider it wrong.

The better discipline is will, not force. There's a long line of things you can do so that your kid respects you, never being hypocritical, or contradictory, firm but not angry, being logical, explaining, reasoning. Among other things. Following basic ideas like that throughout a kid's childhood does more than hitting can.

Hitting is just a frustrated form of punishment.
A kid does not see hitting as a discipline, or as a way of saying "don't do this", but as a punishment for something that may not of been very important. It's just not that effective, and parents always say "don't fight", or "don't hit each other", but then they hit their kid. It's hypocritical, and even though kids can be hypocritical sometimes as well, they still see hypocrisy, and they ignore hypocritical discipline.

Definitely agree. People should seek out other forms of disciplining their child, bringing in physical contact is just begging for trouble in the short, and long, term. There are plenty of ways to deal with major issues (counseling), or even minor ones ("sit in the corner") that don't resort to violence of any form.