Kids these days

[Netscaux]

Now back in my day, if you weren't 20 years old then you kept your head down and addressed those who where 20 years and older as ma'am , sir , or even mister, also kids dressed appropriate and neat, the kids also spoke proper than ever, the sure kept away from all negativity, even online.

Kids these days go around talking back saying everything, they use slang language and swear words, they address adults by first name which is not ever okay, get all access to inappropriateness online and in the real word, they have their pants on the ground and the girls wearing these inappropriate shirts, pants, and clothes and god damn those thongs.

See the problem is there is no more ass whoppings from the parents, DCFS and so on prevents the main forms of discipline. See if you were to get out of line with your momma or your pops then you'd be slapped so hard you'd be speaking in tongues for 5 minutes or they'd take a belt or switch or cord and tear that ass up, now I'm not saying abuse is right, but I'm saying that giving a good ass whopping to your child is. See if you'd got out of line with an adult who's not your parent same results except they would've told your parents and you would have gotten another ass whopping.

But now there are these "parenting methods" like time out and grounding. I say time out with a foot in your ass or more grounded speaking in tongues.

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I'm not saying hitting a child will make theme more respectful and I don't condone abuse , only discipline to the necessary extent.

 

[ForumSource]

Not trying to say there aren't any that don't whoop their kids from getting out of line but 90% of minority parents smack their children upside the head when they're disrespectful. I come from a Filipino family any if I did anything I was either smacked or my mom would pinch me so hard it felt like she was taking part of my skin off.

That being said, there are still plenty of minority kids that get out of line and are disrespectful towards adults. I do agree that what's it called, corporal punishment does help in some ways, but to be completely honest, I think it's more of the influence of media and the environment kids grow up in these days that screw them up, not the parenting techniques.

Have you flipped on the TV and gone to Cartoon Network or another children's channel lately? The shows they play these days are weird, freaky and literally make you feel like you're killing brain cells as you watch. Not only that, there's shows like 16 and Pregnant that basically influence young girls to be promiscuous and have children at a young age, you might be on TV!

So overall to me, I think it's the media and what's surrounding kids these days that make them grow up differently than kids did maybe 10 years ago. Things are changing and it's not really for the better.

 

[Soda]

ya the media definitely has a big play in what's wrong with kids these days. It also has alot to do with family life at home too. I've worked with kids and from what they tell me, things are really messed up. Parents need to do a heck of alot better job with their kids and actually spend more time with them..that's what a kid really wants. To spend time with their parents and enjoy life with them. Sure there will be tough times but if the parents are trying their hardest and really do love their kids, they would be spending more time with them and being their for their kids then the kids might not be acting up so much.

 

[PandahFish]

Some children who have actually get beaten by their parents turn out to be a bad kid in the future. I think it depends how the kid is getting punished.

 

[ForumSource]

Some children who have actually get beaten by their parents turn out to be a bad kid in the future. I think it depends how the kid is getting punished.

That's true, like I said, my older brother and I learned quickly. If we disrespected my mom or dad we got popped in the mouth and we didn't do it again. We learned when we got punished. One the other hand, my younger sister does not learn no matter what. It's like she can't learn and we have no idea why.

 

[The Reverend]

Now back in my day, if you weren't 20 years old then you kept your head down and addressed those who where 20 years and older as ma'am , sir , or even mister, also kids dressed appropriate and neat, the kids also spoke proper than ever, the sure kept away from all negativity, even online.

Times change, and as much as I hate to see 12 year old girls dressed as w***es , I disagree with some of what you say.

Kids these days go around talking back saying everything, they use slang language and swear words, they address adults by first name which is not ever okay, get all access to inappropriateness online and in the real word, they have their pants on the ground and the girls wearing these inappropriate shirts, pants, and clothes and god damn those thongs.

Kids have always used slang words, it jsut depends where you are from, ever seen oliver twist? It is actually an accurate description of what victorian children were like. If ever a kid calls an adult by their first name, it is usually because the adult is comfortable with it. Not all kids dress like that either.

See the problem is there is no more ass whoppings from the parents, DCFS and so on prevents the main forms of discipline. See if you were to get out of line with your momma or your pops then you'd be slapped so hard you'd be speaking in tongues for 5 minutes or they'd take a belt or switch or cord and tear that ass up, now I'm not saying abuse is right, but I'm saying that giving a good ass whopping to your child is. See if you'd got out of line with an adult who's not your parent same results except they would've told your parents and you would have gotten another ass whopping.

Agree here to an extent.

But now there are these "parenting methods" like time out and grounding. I say time out with a foot in your ass or more grounded speaking in tongues.

When I was 13 my friend only got grounded for a month for smoking ganja, if it was me I'm sure I would have been in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. :lol:

 

[Bluezone777]

I hate to break it to you but it was no better back then as it is today. The only things that changed is the slang and an increase in technology. We tend to magnify the good from the past and minimize the bad which gives a false sense of what it was like in the past.

Some act decent while others do not and that goes for both children and adults. The fun part is knowing people fifty years from now will be talking about how good it was back in the day much like we do now.

I have a hard time seeing how violence is necessary to discipline children. Most of the disobedient children and terrible adults get that way from not having any form of discipline as opposed to one that is without violence. The act of disciplining children helps them see where the boundaries are as they don't know where they are until you show them what the boundaries for behavior are. Many parents fail to do this which sets them up for living a life without them which leads to misery for everyone else.

 

[Fiona1964]

I have 4 children and have never smaked or thumped them
And they have all turned out well mannered polit and recpectful
My children open doors for people
give their seats up for older people
even help people with their shopping
My eldest child is teaching her children to be recpectful
My children never swear in front of me

You don`t have to hit a child to make it recepctful

 

[Netscaux]

I have 4 children and have never smaked or thumped them
And they have all turned out well mannered polit and recpectful
My children open doors for people
give their seats up for older people
even help people with their shopping
My eldest child is teaching her children to be recpectful
My children never swear in front of me

You don`t have to hit a child to make it recepctful

I was not implying that you have to hit a child to make it respectful, you missed the whole point. I mainly highlighted why kids are so out of line. It's the damn truth, if you were to get out of line back in "our days" you would get smacked, a lot of parents do these methods that don't work like time out. Teaching is good but teens these days are way too out of line. I know few friends with sassy daughters the rest of their kids address adults the way they should. Then these boys going around committing crimes like robbery and assault. There is no way in hell we would have grown up doing stuff like this because we were raised better. Now the home where most stuff is installed in kids and if you follow a bad kid home you'll find some dumbass parents.