My parents THINK they still control me

[Gizmo]

I'm almost 20 and my parents still seem to think they can be part of the stuff that has nothnig to do with them.

Like what I say on Facebook they think they have the right to complain about. It's my life. I'm 19, almost 20. I'm an adult pretty much. They think they still control me and frankly it pisses me off. I pay rent so it's not like I'm living here for free.

I just grr! I get so sick of it.

 

[Luke]

Parents are there to look out for their children 😛

 

[Deleted member 7467]

Do your parents pay for you in any way? If so, they have the right to still act as the parent for so long as they're supporting you in some way. If not, they're your parents and will continue to act like that until they pass on.

 

[Gizmo]

Yeah? But come on. I'm almost an adult, or already an adult to some people who class this age as adult age.

Everything they pay for I've paid for in some sort of way. Such as food etc which comes through the rent money I pay.

 

[Luke]

Yeah? But come on. I'm almost an adult, or already an adult to some people who class this age as adult age.

Everything they pay for I've paid for in some sort of way. Such as food etc which comes through the rent money I pay.

Talk to them!

 

[Gizmo]

Eh! They're as stupid as a wilderbeast.

 

[Luke]

Eh! They're as stupid as a wilderbeast.

Still try though 😛

 

[Gizmo]

I posted this on a couple of teen forums and got replies that they have no right to complain due to my age.

 

[Luke]

I posted this on a couple of teen forums and got replies that they have no right to complain due to my age.

My parents would always look out for me no matter what age I was 😛

 

[Gizmo]

Everything I do they almost have to complain about.

 

[mancala1964]

I don't think they are trying to control you, they are just looking out for you. This will happen all of your life to some degree no matter how old you are, parents are like that . I'm assuming you still live at home which means you are not able to move out on your own an be self-sufficient, so until you are ready to move out on your own, be more self-sufficient, you'll just have to grin and bear it. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news :sad:

 

[Nebulous]

I'm almost 20 and my parents still seem to think they can be part of the stuff that has nothnig to do with them.

Like what I say on Facebook they think they have the right to complain about. It's my life. I'm 19, almost 20. I'm an adult pretty much. They think they still control me and frankly it pisses me off. I pay rent so it's not like I'm living here for free.

I just grr! I get so sick of it.

Move out. Ive lived on my own since I was 18. 😛

...Of course I was kicked out of the house so I didnt have a choice.

 

[Jake]

Buddy calm down.
I'm 21, work for the Air Force, have my own house, car, soon to be fiance, and a few dogs. My parents still drop by without telling me and complain about my house's cleanliness. Trust me, it won't stop. It's annoying, but eventually it will get quite funny at times. Make your life the best it can be, tell them how you're feeling, but don't be to harsh, they're just being parents after all!

 

[Watch Me Sink]

Move across the state. If that doesn't work move across the country. Just make sure you can support yourself so that you don't look like an idiot if you need their financial help.

 

[Taz]

They would probably consider you more like an adult once your 21, because then you will have no limits. You can drive, drink, etc.

 

[Damien]

I'm almost 20 and my parents still seem to think they can be part of the stuff that has nothnig to do with them.

Like what I say on Facebook they think they have the right to complain about. It's my life. I'm 19, almost 20. I'm an adult pretty much. They think they still control me and frankly it pisses me off. I pay rent so it's not like I'm living here for free.

I just grr! I get so sick of it.

You will find, to a certain extent parents will always do that 🙂 Like my dad says to me (I'm almost 20) he says "I may not be able to stop you, but I can bust your ass about it", yes its annoying, but they are just looking out for you 🙂

What did you think? that when you turned 20 they would stop caring what you did and how you did it? 🙂

 

[MissTake]

Speaking as a parent of kids older than you......you will always be their baby no matter how old you are, when you've raised a child it's difficult to just stop worrying , nagging and caring. Over time they will let go to a degree but they won't ever stop completely.
If they think you are going off the rails a little they will tell you because they love you enough to try to make you see sense, it's not that they are just simply nagging you for no reason. Ask yourself how you would feel if they didn't care a hoot about you, you'd be bitter and twisted and they'd be slated for being bad parents, also ask yourself how you'd be if it was your child and how you'd handle it better, that way you could talk to them more maturely about the situation.

 

[The Reverend]

You can drive, drink, etc.

But not at the same time :lol:

 

[Fiona1964]

Speaking as a parent of kids older than you......you will always be their baby no matter how old you are, when you've raised a child it's difficult to just stop worrying , nagging and caring. Over time they will let go to a degree but they won't ever stop completely.
If they think you are going off the rails a little they will tell you because they love you enough to try to make you see sense, it's not that they are just simply nagging you for no reason. Ask yourself how you would feel if they didn't care a hoot about you, you'd be bitter and twisted and they'd be slated for being bad parents, also ask yourself how you'd be if it was your child and how you'd handle it better, that way you could talk to them more maturely about the situation.

I have to agree with this my children no longer live with me but it does not stop me worrying about them
As MissTake said they are still my babies and I always be there trying to keep them on the right path
And you be unhappy if they did not care for you they just don`t want you getting hurt
Plus your still living under there roof yes your paying rent but think about it you would be paying out a lot more if you had your own place

 

[death180]

They would probably consider you more like an adult once your 21, because then you will have no limits. You can drive, drink, etc.

If he is 19 then he is most likely driving already. And out of the 2 things that adults can do you choose drinking and driving and put them next to eachother? :lol:


My opinion is move out then they will probably tone it down a bit, and at that point you can tell them "hey, I dont' care". But while you are living with them you can't really say that.