So recently I dropped out of classes due to my grades falling and I knew I couldn't bring them back up but my family doesn't know of this. I want to tell them but I don't know how to go about doing it. So if you were in my shoes, how would you do it? Just need some advice on how I should tell my family.
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Why do you keep doing this?
I consider the best rout is being honest, but not only with your family, but with yourself too. If this is something you really,really don't like doing, then don't torture yourself anymore. What i am about to say may be contrary to the public opinion, but college is not everything in life and life doesn't begging or end in college. There is a whole world out there for you to do the things you and only you think you like doing(not your family and anybody in this world). This is an advice from my heart my friend!
Thanks. Cause I want to tell my family soon to get the stress off my chest.
The sooner the better. Don't be afraid to say it(and be ready to run fast just in case they want to through you the first thing at hand lol) 🙂
Yeah well I plan on stopping by my moms work tomorrow morning to sit down and talk with her on it.
liamwestcoast
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I basically did this: dropped out, and needed to tell them. I didn't for a while, I just ended up pretending to go for a few months. I told them by first telling them I wasn't going to go back next semester, and once they accepted that (not easily), I then told them that I had already dropped out of the current semester.
hahaha, That fits very well into the saying: "Don't ask for permission, just do it!"
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Jadster, if you really want to go to college, then that is fine. But if you aren't serious about going to college, then don't torture yourself with it to begin with. You first have to sit down with yourself and decide what YOU want to do in life. If college isn't part of that plan then why do it? If college is part of the plan then you will have to have a talk with your friends at some point. Just tell them that you guys can still be friends but you have to have some time to devote to your studies at school so you don't keep running into this issue. If they are really your true friends then they should understand and not hinder you. Once you get all that straightened out, then you can sit down with your family. Explain to them what has happened so far but also tell them what you have planned for the future. Then you and your family can move forward.
Shannon Apple
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You're only 20 if your profile is right? You're young, so have time to sit back, breathe and really think hard about what you actually want from your life. Maybe you hate your chosen course of study and are not being honest with yourself.
I have a cousin around your age and he's been going through the same thing at the moment. He put drinking and partying before his studies and failed the year, dropped out before failing a second time and to be honest, I'm not happy with him, but I have advised him to maybe go and work for a year, then decide his next move. I'm not even sure if he's interested in getting a job right now. He's kinda interested in computer science, and I did endorse that, but told him he should still take the time to get a job, get his priorities in order, then attempt another course of study.
I think you need to set your priorities as well. College is about getting a job in the end. One is not going to college to simply get a degree to put up on their wall, it's to improve your chances of employment in certain sectors. Where do you see yourself when you are 30? What do you want to work at. Would getting a college degree make it easier for you to get into that role, or could you do it by getting an entry level job right now? Is it compulsory to have a degree for the position you want? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself, then plan everything out for yourself
One of the things I learned during my time in university is that friends won't pass your degree for you. You absolutely have to prioritise and plan one day of the week where you meet up and do whatever. They're not children anymore, so they should understand your need to get assignments done and study. I used to go out for a couple of drinks with friends every Wednesday when I was an undergrad, but I still got up and went to class on Thursday morning.
I agree with Grimalkin. If you are able to sort things out in your own head and be honest with yourself, you'll be able to come clean to your family as well. Sure, they'll be unhappy at first, but it IS your future here.
I have a cousin around your age and he's been going through the same thing at the moment. He put drinking and partying before his studies and failed the year, dropped out before failing a second time and to be honest, I'm not happy with him, but I have advised him to maybe go and work for a year, then decide his next move. I'm not even sure if he's interested in getting a job right now. He's kinda interested in computer science, and I did endorse that, but told him he should still take the time to get a job, get his priorities in order, then attempt another course of study.
I think you need to set your priorities as well. College is about getting a job in the end. One is not going to college to simply get a degree to put up on their wall, it's to improve your chances of employment in certain sectors. Where do you see yourself when you are 30? What do you want to work at. Would getting a college degree make it easier for you to get into that role, or could you do it by getting an entry level job right now? Is it compulsory to have a degree for the position you want? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself, then plan everything out for yourself
One of the things I learned during my time in university is that friends won't pass your degree for you. You absolutely have to prioritise and plan one day of the week where you meet up and do whatever. They're not children anymore, so they should understand your need to get assignments done and study. I used to go out for a couple of drinks with friends every Wednesday when I was an undergrad, but I still got up and went to class on Thursday morning.
I agree with Grimalkin. If you are able to sort things out in your own head and be honest with yourself, you'll be able to come clean to your family as well. Sure, they'll be unhappy at first, but it IS your future here.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I spoke with my mother earlier before coming into work and got it off my chest. She was disappointing but just wants me to do well and wants to sit down with me and plan out my next move so thank you for making this chat a bit easier for me. I was majorly stressing out and needed some advice.
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