Public Humiliation
- Thread starter MrDawn
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I do not agree that public humiliation is a way to teach someone a lesson. I believe that there are far more other private ways to teach someone a lesson without making it a big show just to humiliate them and if people around do not know the situation then the person being humiliated can try and turn the tables and make out like they are being bullied and that never ends well.
Humiliation isn't seen the same way by all. Some have no shame at all. If punishment is the ultimate goal, then it should be personal and hit were it actually hurts the wrong doer. Plus, humiliation is easily calloused by those that don't care, the more a person is subjected to it, the more they can deal with it.
Niyi Briggs
Reputable
If you try that with me, you would receive a dose of the same humiliation no matter who you are. It is wrong at all levels.
Dr. Phil does it all of the time. I've sat through some episodes where he's ripped some people an a** over the things they've said or done.
Joshua Farrell
FP's Housekeeper
I know some things done publicly, does help ensure that those specific items do not happen again, but I agree, it is generally wiser to correct in private. Main thing I have seen happen, is when correction is done in public, it tends to cause hurtful feelings and hurt friendships to come to pass, over the actual item that needed correction. Generally speaking, most people even after a public humiliation, won't go to the person in private to fix the cause of the humiliation, and hard feelings tend to stick because of it.
Had a few people I had to publicly humiliate on the job, where the hard feelings and better correction was done privately after the person realized why it happened. Ended up as pretty good friends after that, because they sought to talk to me to fix any additional issues and to talk over it.
But yes, I would rather that someone (even myself), have a private talking to and correction done in private, over a public ordeal.
Had a few people I had to publicly humiliate on the job, where the hard feelings and better correction was done privately after the person realized why it happened. Ended up as pretty good friends after that, because they sought to talk to me to fix any additional issues and to talk over it.
But yes, I would rather that someone (even myself), have a private talking to and correction done in private, over a public ordeal.
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Deleted member 17779
This! Not only could it cause someone to lash out or retaliate, it could cause someone to commit suicide......and what would be the point in that.
Public humiliation is terrible, it can lead to someone hurting someone else or themselves.
TLDR, their dog hopped the fence, ran down the road, and killed 30+ chickens on this poor family's farm. The daughter, shot and killed the dog in the act and her parents posted it on Facebook so they could identify the owners. The owners of the dog came forward, the family asked for recompense for their lost live stock, the owners of the dog refused and berated the family. That family sued the dog owners on Judge Judy and won the case.
Not at all a lesson for a stranger to public humiliate someone they don't even have a clue/know about that person. It's right down rude.
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Deleted member 4320
I'm going to say no generally speaking, but I think humiliation that is relative to something that is deemed wrong could be effective. But honestly there's so many edge cases I'd be on the side of caution and just say generally it's a bad idea.
What do you all think about the differences in what someone would think is a boundary for security compared to how the other party might think it's a public humiliation?
guyyanthony
Paragon
i have mixed feelings on this ahha
The Raven92
Up-and-Coming Sensation
Being publicly humiliated only fuels the anger in that person because once you lose your dignity, you have nothing to lose and you become a very dangerous person.
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