Premarital sex has come under fire because of the rise of promiscuity of young adults, common law living arrangements, gay relationships, and marital affairs. The truth is that premarital sex has happened and will always happen, but is it "immoral"?
I do not believe that premarital sex is immoral and I believe that people should engage in a sexual relationship before marriage.
Like it or not, sexual attraction is a key factor in how the couple first came together. You do not date anyone who you believe is grotesque or repulsive. You date someone who makes you tingle in all the right areas.
Premarital sex within a loving, monogamous relationship is healthy. If the couple is truly in love with one another and considering marriage, why should they not have sex? My ex-girlfriend's father once told me: "Son, you have to test drive the car before you buy it" when we announced our "promise" in high school. He was not telling her or I to be promiscuous. He was telling us that we needed to make sure that we can please each other sexually as well as compassionately and romantically. It is like buying a new car. You do not just rush out and jump into a new car without thinking about the financial repercussions. You have to first figure out if the relationship is something you need, not just want. You have to figure out how you are going to maintain the relationship, both financially and psychologically. Then, after you have decided to make a "purchase," you have to choose which one is right for you. This may mean "test driving" a few candidates before finally settling on one. You cannot just fall in love with a Mini Cooper and later complain that it is too small. You have to analyze every aspect of the relationship and make a final decision. Usually, people are satisfied by the first "test drive" because they have "researched" and pondered which "car" is right for them. Thus, sex before marriage is healthy as well as beneficial.
Today, marriage has become arbitrary, mainly a legal agreement between two people. Now, with domestic partnerships and common law marriage, traditional legal marriage is becoming more ceremonial rather than necessary. When a couple finally decides that they want to be together forever, then they should get married, combining their estates and their souls in a holy union. There are far too many divorces in this world to jump into a life-altering decision without considering all options.
