Sex Before Marriage
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dynastygal
Up-and-Coming Sensation
Well, sex does mean intercourse.
Black Panther
Addicted
I think this is really wrong even though a lot of people do it.
Nathan54AB
Familiar Face
The way I see it morally, sex is fine so long as both people have their priorities straight. In other words, it shouldn't be even near the top of the list (figuratively) in a relationship. But personally, I think it's best to wait until after marriage for the first time, just because it would make the event more special. That is a personal opinion though, not a moralistic one.
But most and I mean most if not all marriages don't work out if their sex life isn't good... I know some of you would take this the wrong way but it's true, would you buy a car without test driving it first? Would you buy a house without looking inside it first?
If the sex life is good, you get along with eachother well, know eachother for a good while, know each others family good, then you should get married and have little ones if you don't have any "money" problems...
If the sex life is good, you get along with eachother well, know eachother for a good while, know each others family good, then you should get married and have little ones if you don't have any "money" problems...
This is my view of it.
In most cases, people say that you should get married around the age of 17 & 18 at the least, at least that is what I have been told multiple times. Here is the problem in this statement, if you are unable to have sex until you are married, and you are supposed to be married at least around the ages that I have mentioned, then why does puberty fully develop between the ages of 14, 15, & 16?
In most cases, people say that you should get married around the age of 17 & 18 at the least, at least that is what I have been told multiple times. Here is the problem in this statement, if you are unable to have sex until you are married, and you are supposed to be married at least around the ages that I have mentioned, then why does puberty fully develop between the ages of 14, 15, & 16?
Glorfindel
Acquaintance
I really don't care what other people do with their lives.
Well, in my opinion it's not really "wrong" before marriage, but what I do think is inhumane is where if you get your lady pregnant and leave her unmarried. If you have sex before marriage, but agree to marry your lady then that's alright.
Legal age should be the limit (ie 16 in the UK), if you are 16 or over it's fine, but if you are under it's wrong. Contraception should always be used though, unless you are in a healthy relationship and are planning a child.
Premarital sex has come under fire because of the rise of promiscuity of young adults, common law living arrangements, gay relationships, and marital affairs. The truth is that premarital sex has happened and will always happen, but is it "immoral"?
I do not believe that premarital sex is immoral and I believe that people should engage in a sexual relationship before marriage.
Like it or not, sexual attraction is a key factor in how the couple first came together. You do not date anyone who you believe is grotesque or repulsive. You date someone who makes you tingle in all the right areas.
Premarital sex within a loving, monogamous relationship is healthy. If the couple is truly in love with one another and considering marriage, why should they not have sex? My ex-girlfriend's father once told me: "Son, you have to test drive the car before you buy it" when we announced our "promise" in high school. He was not telling her or I to be promiscuous. He was telling us that we needed to make sure that we can please each other sexually as well as compassionately and romantically. It is like buying a new car. You do not just rush out and jump into a new car without thinking about the financial repercussions. You have to first figure out if the relationship is something you need, not just want. You have to figure out how you are going to maintain the relationship, both financially and psychologically. Then, after you have decided to make a "purchase," you have to choose which one is right for you. This may mean "test driving" a few candidates before finally settling on one. You cannot just fall in love with a Mini Cooper and later complain that it is too small. You have to analyze every aspect of the relationship and make a final decision. Usually, people are satisfied by the first "test drive" because they have "researched" and pondered which "car" is right for them. Thus, sex before marriage is healthy as well as beneficial.
Today, marriage has become arbitrary, mainly a legal agreement between two people. Now, with domestic partnerships and common law marriage, traditional legal marriage is becoming more ceremonial rather than necessary. When a couple finally decides that they want to be together forever, then they should get married, combining their estates and their souls in a holy union. There are far too many divorces in this world to jump into a life-altering decision without considering all options.
I do not believe that premarital sex is immoral and I believe that people should engage in a sexual relationship before marriage.
Like it or not, sexual attraction is a key factor in how the couple first came together. You do not date anyone who you believe is grotesque or repulsive. You date someone who makes you tingle in all the right areas.
Premarital sex within a loving, monogamous relationship is healthy. If the couple is truly in love with one another and considering marriage, why should they not have sex? My ex-girlfriend's father once told me: "Son, you have to test drive the car before you buy it" when we announced our "promise" in high school. He was not telling her or I to be promiscuous. He was telling us that we needed to make sure that we can please each other sexually as well as compassionately and romantically. It is like buying a new car. You do not just rush out and jump into a new car without thinking about the financial repercussions. You have to first figure out if the relationship is something you need, not just want. You have to figure out how you are going to maintain the relationship, both financially and psychologically. Then, after you have decided to make a "purchase," you have to choose which one is right for you. This may mean "test driving" a few candidates before finally settling on one. You cannot just fall in love with a Mini Cooper and later complain that it is too small. You have to analyze every aspect of the relationship and make a final decision. Usually, people are satisfied by the first "test drive" because they have "researched" and pondered which "car" is right for them. Thus, sex before marriage is healthy as well as beneficial.
Today, marriage has become arbitrary, mainly a legal agreement between two people. Now, with domestic partnerships and common law marriage, traditional legal marriage is becoming more ceremonial rather than necessary. When a couple finally decides that they want to be together forever, then they should get married, combining their estates and their souls in a holy union. There are far too many divorces in this world to jump into a life-altering decision without considering all options.
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