Should kids know why their parents are divorcing?

[Katrina]

Do you think kids should learn the reason why their parents are divorcing?

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[Cam]

I would say there's no reason to air the dirty laundry out. All they need to know is that there were irreconcilable differences. Whether there was infidelity, substance abuse, physical/mental/emotional abuse, etc, you probably don't need to turn it into a game of he said vs. she said as to what actually happened. In doing that, you're making one parent look great, and the other... Not so much. I'm not a parent personally, but I wouldn't think that would be a healthy situation for a child.

 

[John]

It depends on the age. If your children are in grade school, it probably won’t do any good to try and air out everything that was wrong in a relationship. However, if they’re high school/college aged, it’s probably for the best for both of the parents to sit them down and explain what happened if both of the parents are mature enough to do it.

 

[MrDawn]

No. Children should never be involved in adult affairs. It just causes unneeded behavioral problems.

 

[Naza]

The answer is no.
They don't have to know the reason till they are of age to understand better.
Kids should be allowed to be kids,they shouldn't be allowed to know adult affairs.

My dad remarried 18 years after my mom passed on and he asked for our opinions before he got married to my step mother and I respect him for that.

 

[Saphira]

Perhaps not the details but I do think they deserve to know it's because of what happened between the parents and they are not at fault.

 

[Shortie_]

When it comes to divorce, I feel it depends on the age of the children as to whether they should be told. In some cases, you can tell the kids that you and their father don't get on and it is best to live apart but they will still see their dad or even vice versa depending on the situation.

Once kids are older, they will understand a little more.

 

[Kirubel]

In my opinion, kids should know why their parents are divorcing because they will know who is wrong and will not have a hard time choosing the guardian.

 

[Page]

Any age is good, the way I see it, if you stay married to a man you despise then you had better get your kiddies and move out. If they stay together the way the parents will treat each other will automatically tell the stories that my parents don’t get along.

 

[King Belieal]

I am a fan of someone always coming clean with anything. It makes life easier and lifts the burden of cover up. Yes. I am in support of kids knowing absolutely why their parents divorced.

 

[Naza]

When it comes to divorce, I feel it depends on the age of the children as to whether they should be told. In some cases, you can tell the kids that you and their father don't get on and it is best to live apart but they will still see their dad or even vice versa depending on the situation.

Once kids are older, they will understand a little more.

Absolutely, right. The parents should consider how much the kids are before letting them know anything that concerns the divorce. My dad did the same when he remarried 18 years after my mom's demise, and we didn't kick against it because we knew he needed a companion.

 

[Min George]

If the kids are young, they don't really have to know why their parents are divorcing. But immediately they get to the age of 12 or so, where they can process thoughts properly, they should know why the divorce happened.

 

[Page]

Thing is they might be even to young to understand at a very young age

 

[Felly]

I think it depends on the kids and the parents. I think they should be informed, but in a manner that is safe and appropriate for all involved. I think kids have the right to understand why they might not see their parents together all the time and why their parents may eventually move on to see other people (and possibly get remarried). Maybe they don't need to know all the details, but they'll at least have a baseline knowledge of why circumstances in their life have changed.