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How long do you think people should wait to get married? How soon is too soon?
The Governor
Seasoned Veteran
I really expected this to be some sort of insensitive joke about something. :lol:
It all depends, really. Some people can find out they're meant for each other within a few months of being together. At the same time, I wouldn't want people to make a mistake, get a divorce, and deal with all that pain.
If the couple is truly and deeply in love, and wants to get married, I say they should wait a few months just to make sure, but then get married. A couple certainly doesn't have to wait a whole year or longer to get married.
The only times I'm 100% against people getting married are if
a) They've only been dating a week or so and think "they're perfect for each other".
b) They aren't happy together.
or
c) They're getting married for the wrong reasons.
It all depends, really. Some people can find out they're meant for each other within a few months of being together. At the same time, I wouldn't want people to make a mistake, get a divorce, and deal with all that pain.
If the couple is truly and deeply in love, and wants to get married, I say they should wait a few months just to make sure, but then get married. A couple certainly doesn't have to wait a whole year or longer to get married.
The only times I'm 100% against people getting married are if
a) They've only been dating a week or so and think "they're perfect for each other".
b) They aren't happy together.
or
c) They're getting married for the wrong reasons.
Joshua Farrell
FP's Housekeeper
I would say that if one knows the other person for quite awhile (for a year or more), and knows the person well enough to be happy together, then I would state that one needs to have a date set 3 months after the proposal, otherwise one might not actually get married to them.
If one doesn't know the person too well, then I would say wait for a good half a year to know more about them.
Regarding setting dates to get married, I knew someone who had set up a date to get married almost a year in advance, as it turned out, due to the length of time of waiting, they ended up breaking up the engagement. I blame it on the fact that neither one of them wanted to marry within a reasonable time table.
If one doesn't know the person too well, then I would say wait for a good half a year to know more about them.
Regarding setting dates to get married, I knew someone who had set up a date to get married almost a year in advance, as it turned out, due to the length of time of waiting, they ended up breaking up the engagement. I blame it on the fact that neither one of them wanted to marry within a reasonable time table.
Around 6 months before the proposal, and then plan the wedding for next year. Then they spend a year in the engagement stage; knowing that they're going to get married. And if they can wait; they should get married. 🙂
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Deleted member 17779
I was just curious what everyone here thinks because I know a guy who just proposed to a girl he's only been dating for no more than a month. He says he's going to wait a little bit to get married because he's saving up for a ring. I don't have any thing against this guy but I just think he should have waited a while before "popping the question".
The Governor
Seasoned Veteran
Bazinga! said:
He definitely should have waited. I don't care if you think you "love him/her and can't be without them", WAIT!!
To be honest, I have no respect for people who rush into marriage or intimacy. Patience is key.
ForumSource
Resident
I definitely think it just depends on the couple but at least 6 months in my opinion.
it's best not to rush it - couples have to make sure they are totally committed to one another. Marriage is a huge change and comes with it, responsibilities. That may take a while, depends on the couple, really. 4-6 months maybe?
I would say at least 6 months. I think the two individuals who want to get married should get to know each other a little bit before jumping into marriage. But this isn't the case for everyone. I personally wouldn't want to rush it myself.
Bazinga! said:
That is definitely too soon for me. Days is definitely a no-no, and I think anywhere within a year can also be considered "soon". To me marriage is something very serious, the decision is very important and should be made only after careful consideration. And I think it's hard to really get to know someone in only days or months. Best to see compatibility in years, when problems happen, and what happens to the relationship.
Although this...
Lienx said:
...is pretty unique experience too. I guess it is just never the same for everyone. Congratulations for you, though, good luck with the future! 🙂
It really depends on other things too. For example, you should have a steady job in order to deal with the costs of the marriage and of the cohabitation.
Personally, I think that the couple should wait at least 1-2 years. As phio said, it is important and in my opinion it is impossible to get to know someone in a couple of months.
Personally, I think that the couple should wait at least 1-2 years. As phio said, it is important and in my opinion it is impossible to get to know someone in a couple of months.
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