Were you spanked when you were little?
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Taz said:
So if my kids were out of line i could punch them in the face because if i don't they will lose discipline also. It's the same as smacking, abuse is abuse.
I wasn't smacked, and wouldn't smack my own kids.
SheepishWolf
Paragon
I would never smack my own children. I've been spanked a lot. (but looking back at it, I suppose I was a difficult child) When my parents smack me (and yes, they still occasionally do) I just do something worse than what I had originally done that caused the to do that to me -- really, what can they do after they've smacked me? They can't take away my food, shelter, or education or it'll be child abuse. They can't smack me harder or it'll be child abuse. Though I suppose if the kid has no hobbies or doesn't hang out with friends then there's really nothing the parent can do though besides spanking or smacking.
I think that more parents should realize that smacking/spanking their children will do absolutely nothing. It just makes them madder at you and could ruin your relationship with them which will just make them more defiant and possibly worse in the future. Adults and parents should realize that they have little to no control over what their children do. In reality, that's the truth. If they really wanted to smoke they would do it when you're back is turned, if they really wanted to do...whatever they could find a way to do it. And you saying "no" or spanking them or taking away TV will do nothing, because eventually the kid will get the TV back. The sting of the spank will only last a second. Smarter kids will realize that and take advantage of it. Parents should work on getting a really open relationship and becoming a friend to their child earlier, and not act as such a touch authority figure.
I think that more parents should realize that smacking/spanking their children will do absolutely nothing. It just makes them madder at you and could ruin your relationship with them which will just make them more defiant and possibly worse in the future. Adults and parents should realize that they have little to no control over what their children do. In reality, that's the truth. If they really wanted to smoke they would do it when you're back is turned, if they really wanted to do...whatever they could find a way to do it. And you saying "no" or spanking them or taking away TV will do nothing, because eventually the kid will get the TV back. The sting of the spank will only last a second. Smarter kids will realize that and take advantage of it. Parents should work on getting a really open relationship and becoming a friend to their child earlier, and not act as such a touch authority figure.
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Corporal punishment wouldn't be necessary if parents weren't too lazy to impart values to their children.
Nathan54AB
Familiar Face
Spanking, or any form of physical harm by means of imparting discipline into a child, is always uncalled for. It's just a method used by parents who are either too lazy or impatient to impart values correctly, ignorant as to how, don't embrace rationality at all, or they're just flat out sociopaths (probably because of the lousy parenting they also received as a child).
heh, it worked with me.
Naturally the human body doesn't like pain, so when you do something and you feel pain because of it your body doesn't want you to do it again. Which is usually where spanking works for younger kids.
I do believe in it if they are bad.
Naturally the human body doesn't like pain, so when you do something and you feel pain because of it your body doesn't want you to do it again. Which is usually where spanking works for younger kids.
I do believe in it if they are bad.
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It's psychologically harmful. All it does is teach the child to fear the punisher. Punishment in general doesn't work; it just teaches the child not to get caught. I see this with my brother all the time. The only way to get a child to stop doing something bad is to make him/her understand that it's wrong. Parents are too lazy to do that, though, so they go for the easy option: beating the crap out of their children. Parents also spank their kids for some really stupid reasons. Oh no. Your kid broke some stupid thing. Time to beat the crap out of him/her. I'm sure that parent has never broken anything in his/her life. Besides, everyone knows that material objects are more important than human beings.death180 said:
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I edited it. I wasn't done ranting yet. 
As a kid I was rarely punished physically. My mother would deliver the occasional whack to the back of my legs or behind. My father abhorred any kind of physical punishment and instead opted to lecture me ad nauseam. In retrospect, and in consideration of my father's often mind numbingly boring lectures, I preferred the whacks. 😉
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