What's the Point of having a Relationship for you personally?

[Naiwen]

As a sex-repulsed aro-ace, I don't have to have someone else make me happy, as I do always find something to do on my own, I'm stressed out in relationships for me personally.

 

[Katrina]

I've been married for 31 years. One thing that is special about having a relationship is companionship but also knowing that there is someone who has your back.

 

[MrDawn]

I've been married for 31 years. One thing that is special about having a relationship is companionship but also knowing that there is someone who has your back.

I agree. It's nice to have someone. I was married for almost 12 years myself but got divorced. I have been divorced for almost 2 years now. I met my girlfriend 10 months ago and we're still together. It's just that being alone sucks after awhile and after my divorce, my family wanted me to stay single and alone and that was mental and emotional torture having to explain to them that I am fully unable to do that. I even got pissed and called them hypocrites when they pushed me on the issue. They're all married. Why don't they stay single and alone too if it's such a great idea. I told them if they expected that of me then they needed to all go file for divorce and separate and see how it feels. I need that female connection in my life. I refuse to be isolated just because I had one bad marriage. It still aggravates me that they asked that because it's convenient for them. I really felt that was one sided because my feels were being downplayed. It wasn't my fault that my ex wife did what she did.

 

[Deleted member 49125]

I've been married for over 22 years to my best friend. It's nice having that friendship on a day to day basis. Somebody that literally loves you for you.
But I know it's not for everybody. You have to do what's best for you!

 

[Katrina]

I agree. It's nice to have someone. I was married for almost 12 years myself but got divorced. I have been divorced for almost 2 years now. I met my girlfriend 10 months ago and we're still together. It's just that being alone sucks after awhile and after my divorce, my family wanted me to stay single and alone and that was mental and emotional torture having to explain to them that I am fully unable to do that. I even got pissed and called them hypocrites when they pushed me on the issue. They're all married. Why don't they stay single and alone too if it's such a great idea. I told them if they expected that of me then they needed to all go file for divorce and separate and see how it feels. I need that female connection in my life. I refuse to be isolated just because I had one bad marriage. It still aggravates me that they asked that because it's convenient for them. I really felt that was one sided because my feels were being downplayed. It wasn't my fault that my ex wife did what she did.

I can understand that they were concerned for you in case your girlfriend turned out to be less than what they would want for you. Some people tend to choose the same type of partner, whether that's good or bad.

But you had the right to know what's best for you so I'm glad you stuck up for yourself and did what you want.

I have a friend from high school whose wife died from covid around December of last year and he's engaged already. He was embarrassed to tell people at first but then chose to make the announcement on Facebook because he knows how quickly life can be taken away so you might as well live it now 🙂