Women Proposing

[IkaBula]

I was having a chat over coffee the other day with my sister about this, as she is the last unmarried of my siblings, though lives with her long term boyfriend. She said she doesn't think he'll ever propose as he really doesn't seem all that interested in marriage, despite their being together eight years living together and having cats!

To this my suggestion was that she proposes, an idea she really didn't like - which, I kind of didn't understand as in the family I'm definitely the more old school one while my siblings all seem to actually be living in the 21st century. 😛

I thought it'd be interesting to do a small poll.

Women, would you ever propose to a man?
Men, would you be okay with a woman proposing to you?

 

[John]

It's about how your relationship is, I guess. I'd personally find that pretty odd, but I'm not sure why there would be anything "wrong" with it, per se.

 

[Page]

It's the the first time to be honest, in today's world is allot different then 30 to 50 years ago and life aren't stick. 8 years together, darn that's a long time

 

[Joshua Farrell]

Honestly, if I were a girl and the guy I was with didn't propose, I'd propose or leave the relationship.

I cannot figure out why two people would be together for such a long time, and not get around to being married.

 

[MasterA]

I don't see anything wrong with the women proposing and I will be fine with it if it happened to me. However, I think it will be better for the women to discuss with the man before officially proposing because some men may not want marriage and in that case, proposing may hurt their relationship.

 

[Deleted member 1609]

I don't see anything wrong with the women proposing and I will be fine with it if it happened to me. However, I think it will be better for the women to discuss with the man before officially proposing because some men may not want marriage and in that case, proposing may hurt their relationship.

There are a lot of women who don't want marriage, though, and it doesn't stop men from proposing.

 

[IkaBula]

I agree with PMeowse. Why the double standard, why can't it be the same thing regardless of direction?

 

[Gus]

I cannot figure out why two people would be together for such a long time, and not get around to being married.

Why should they? Why does everyone have to follow the same script? Why does society pressure everyone into living the same cookie cutter life?

 

[Joshua Farrell]

I cannot figure out why two people would be together for such a long time, and not get around to being married.

Why should they? Why does everyone have to follow the same script? Why does society pressure everyone into living the same cookie cutter life?

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't. As by then, you would expect something more than the typical agreement of sharing costs, and putting each other as a co-signer, just incase something happens to the other person.

 

[Steve Jobs]

I wish it was this way. Women should propose to men, and not the other way around.

 

[Deleted member 1609]

Everyone is different, and marriage is not for everyone.

 

[Gus]

I cannot figure out why two people would be together for such a long time, and not get around to being married.

Why should they? Why does everyone have to follow the same script? Why does society pressure everyone into living the same cookie cutter life?

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't.

You can, but it seems a little judgmental to me. People who choose to live their lives differently and are genuinely happy should be celebrated, not scrutinized.

 

[Deleted member 1609]

You can scrutinize me if you want.

 

[Joshua Farrell]

I cannot figure out why two people would be together for such a long time, and not get around to being married.

Why should they? Why does everyone have to follow the same script? Why does society pressure everyone into living the same cookie cutter life?

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't.

You can, but it seems a little judgmental to me. People who choose to live their lives differently and are genuinely happy should be celebrated, not scrutinized.

Questioning why someone would do that is different than being judgemental by the way. When you are being judgemental, you are expecting people to live up to a certain standard of thought. Questioning, is wondering why someone would do that, and not expecting them to change. With me, I fit into the questioning area, not the judgemental; as I don't judge people on how they live, unless I feel it is absolutely needed. With this sort of question, it isn't something that I would judge someone on, it is a simple question on why they would do it, as everyone has their own reason.

 

[Page]

why not leave other people alone. How it feel for that person if he see this topic

 

[Joshua Farrell]

why not leave other people alone. How it feel for that person if he see this topic

Who knows. The topic isn't here to discuss potential feelings; it is to discuss what you think about it.

 

[Lord Saru]

I dont see a problem either way. No matter what the gender, love needs to be expressed.

 

[IkaBula]

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't. As by then, you would expect something more than the typical agreement of sharing costs, and putting each other as a co-signer, just incase something happens to the other person.

Actually it works differently in Australia to where ever you are apparently. Here 'de facto relationships' have the same rights as married couples.

 

[Joshua Farrell]

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't. As by then, you would expect something more than the typical agreement of sharing costs, and putting each other as a co-signer, just incase something happens to the other person.

Actually it works differently in Australia to where ever you are apparently. Here 'de facto relationships' have the same rights as married couples.

There are a number of states here, that if you co-habitat long enough, you are considered married.

 

[IkaBula]

No one has to, but I still can question why someone in that position wouldn't. As by then, you would expect something more than the typical agreement of sharing costs, and putting each other as a co-signer, just incase something happens to the other person.

Actually it works differently in Australia to where ever you are apparently. Here 'de facto relationships' have the same rights as married couples.

There are a number of states here, that if you co-habitat long enough, you are considered married.

Common law marriage?