A Girl Dillema ---> Help Please

[Saruman]

Alright, so there is this girl at work who I'm attracted to, but I don't know how to go about striking conversations to well with girls...And I highly doubt she wants to discuss physics and whether or not evolution is real or not 😛

so...

What are some questions that, you girls, like to answer or topics you like to discuss regularly I guess?

I'm leaving for work in about 30 mins, I was thinking of asking her like my previous post, "What type of instrument you play?"

But I would like some advice from the girls here, or guys who know what I'm talking about please.

😳

 

[wednesday]

omg i think i snorted laughing at "what instrument do you play"

Dont.....dont do it.suicide..

Do you talk with her alot? or just to say hello?

 

[Saruman]

lmao, see, good thing I asked then, lol :rofl:

We usually just have small talk, although yesterday her and I both laughed yesterday talking, so... but 'eh, the mind of the girl bewilders me, lol

 

[wednesday]

aww i would laugh...but it depends on her sense of humour.

I think the best thing u can do is be yourself...and if thats not what she likes its easier and quicker to learn.
Dont pretend to be something your not, and be cool, relaxed...non fussed.
Nothing more of a turn on for us girls than a cool man.....think "whatever" and you will sail through...

 

[Saruman]

Sweet, I'll definately do this today! Thanks BB

And wednesday, yeah, I'm always myself, I pretend never, lol I can't stand "fake" people.

Thanks everybody, 8 mins and I'm outta here... 😉

 

[cityStatic]

I'm sure that most offices don't allow inner-office relationships, though.

If they do, just try saying "Hey, what's up? The sun is pretty today, huh?"

 

[Watch Me Sink]

I'm sure that most offices don't allow inner-office relationships, though.

What are they going to do, throw a chastity belt on you if you do?

In relation to the subject: say hello. Frequently. Ask how their day is going, relate yourself to them "You like skydiving while listening to Frank Sinatra? Me too!", after a while you'll be friends or whatnot.

If you need more help: http://www.amazon.com/Dating-Dummies-Jo ... 0764550721

EDIT: How old are you?

 

[Bossanova]

I'm sure that most offices don't allow inner-office relationships, though.

What are they going to do, throw a chastity belt on you if you do?

They could fire you.

 

[Nebulous]

Speaking from experience, I would avoid dating girls at your work place. It is a bad idea.

 

[Zenrer]

If you decide to go through with it, what I always do is just say Hello, ask them how they have been lately, if you dont know there name ask them. Just initiate normal conversation, as if you were talking to your friend, but dont crack bad jokes until you get to know her a bit more.

 

[fantanoice]

Talking to somebody of the opposite sex is no different than talking to somebody of the same sex. It's just talking. :/ It you feel awkward talking to her, chances are it will make her feel uncomfortable talking to you as well. If you're calm and confident, it's a lot more welcoming.

You could always ask her what she's into, whether it be TV, movie, music-wise (I'd omit games unless she brings up that she likes games).

Of course, ask her about her day and whatnot. Sometimes small talk is not be as small as it might seem.

 

[Saruman]

Geeze people, why are you so helpful, lmao :great:

TPP, her name is Rachel, and yeah, asking her how her day got us a talking a bit more, I now have a 3 day weekend currently, and I'd rather spend it at work working with her, blah...this weekend will be long, lol

See, shes the type of girl, who if I could just sit in the same room with her, that would satisfy me for life, 😳

I'm not going to rush things, however, now that we are talking more, things, should turn out better at a smoother pace.

You see, I have so much on my mind, I want a girl that I can talk to in depth about things, thats the only way I can explain it.

Well I need to pick up a new pair of shoes at walmart, I'll be back in a couple hours.

Thanks for all your help people,

Truly, thank you

 

[birdy]

Speaking from experience, I would avoid dating girls at your work place. It is a bad idea.

Well that depends how big the workplace is. More couples meet through work than out at bars/clubs.



This is so romantic I just gotta come back and find out how you are getting on hon :great:

 

[Watch Me Sink]

Well I need to pick up a new pair of shoes at walmart, I'll be back in a couple hours.

Bad idea. Walmart shoes last a few months at the greatest. Spend an extra 20 bucks for a nice pair of Adidas or Nike, and they'll last well over a year 😉

 

[Saruman]

lol, thank you birdy, well like I said, I have a 3 day weekend right now, so I'll be making some decent sized threads here, even though I can't take the girl out of my mind 😳 I need something to do until then 😛

I wonder... should I ask if she has a myspace/facebook account? or maybe her cell number first?

Or just get to know her more at work first? such as favorite movies etc...

You know what was ironic...last night Top Gun was on, and since I grew up on military bases all my life is by far proably my favorite movie and whenever Charlie and Maverick and the song "take my breathe away" played all I could do was think of Rachel...

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blah, time to find something to post on now, lol 😳

 

[Saruman]

Um...well yeah, lol

We are both customer service reps at a dominos and its kinda cool, that she ALWAYS finds a reason to work where I am, like yesterday I was folding boxes, and out of the 8+ employees there at the time, she doesn't say anything, and just comes and helps me finish making them AND helped me put them away... :cheer:

 

[Summerlander]

Just talk to her as any other person. Think of her as a your best bud.

That's all I got.

 

[Van1lla ™]

Yeah just chat to her like normal get to know each other a bit then as you chat more just get a bit flirtatious, if she doesnt respond well then maybe its not time yet but if she responds well then you can do it a while longer but remember not to strong. After a while of it going well you could ask for a mobile number and then invite her out and hopefully go from there. It can take time but she sounds like she is worth it.

 

[Saruman]

Yeah most definately V, thank you for that.

Hopefully I get called in, if not, then I need to bare 2 more days, lol, but that'd be 2 more days with you guys 😛

 

[Kino]

Saruman, you need some work bro!

Never ask a girl nerdy questions! I laughed when you were going to ask what instrument she plays.

You gotta be smooth when talking to girls, and not be afraid they'll judge you or anything. They won't, trust me.

You just gotta make small, flirty talk that's all. Something nice like, "oh man my day's been crap, has yours been any better?" Or just go straight out asking, "How was your day?" Then normally you can make small talk out of the response.