It all depends on the person. What works for some will not work for others and vice versa.
Condoms, IUDs, Diaphragms can fail.
Vasectomies and Tubal ligations can be botched.
Birth control and the morning after pill can fail.
Abstinence is ideal, but you would be delusional if you believed that it was a surefire way to avoid pregnancy, and I only say this because rape is still a possibility. The fact that 2/3 of rape victims know their attacker would mean that rape is still possible even if the victim only went to school, work and home and had no social life what so ever.
Some people have abortions, and realize that even though it was the right decision at that point in their life, they still regret it even if they ended up having a family later on in their life. <= This is most often the case with women who have had abortions, so i really don't understand why some people act as if she happily skipped down to the clinic, got scraped, and then happily skipped out. That just doesn't happen. The women who have had an abortion are aware of what is going on even if they are only getting a bunch of cells removed, since it had not yet become a fetus.
Some people choose adoption and the child ends up in a foster home for the rest of their lives, or worse, ends up with parents who abuse them every single day of their lives. <= This happens more than you think.
There are so many kids in foster care who have either never had parents off their own, or have bounced from home to home and abused in every single one. To make matters worse, you have certain people who are doing everything they can possibly do, to make sure that these kids stay in foster care, because these individuals believe that the kid is better off in foster care than being adopted by a gay couple.
You also have the affluent who would sooner adopt a baby thousands of miles away from some foreign country, than adopt a child who needs a family in their own back yard.
This isn't even counting the individuals who want to continue this cycle, and restrict preventative measures by, restricting sex ed for teens so that they don't learn about sex, (even though, the states without access to this information, have the highest rates of teen pregnancy) restricting access to contraceptives, so that, if they make the choice to have sex, the teen wouldn't know how to prevent a pregnancy, restrict access to abortion, in case they were raped, or, if they had sex and did everything they could possibly do to prevent a pregnancy. I am using teens, since that is where it can start, but there are some teens who grow up to be an adult without knowing much more about sex.
Some people choose adoption and the child ends up in a loving home. <= Although this is great when it happens, it is not the always the case, so people should stop acting as if every child that is put up for adoption, will be adopted by a loving family who will love them.
Some people decide to keep the child and abuse it every single day of their lives. There are way too many children out there who are unwanted and abused and either end up sitting in a foster home because they were removed from the home, and there was no family who wanted to care for them until they are told that they have to leave, and either end up being homeless or in jail, if they aren't able to support themselves. Or worse, the child ends up dead because of the abuse by their birth parents, or, the baby ends up in a dumpster.
There are as many possible outcomes as there are situations that lead up to it.
One size does not fit all, and so people should stop acting as if it does.
After all has been said and done, it is a woman's body, and therefore it should be a woman's choice. If the father is still around, then he has some say in it as well, but ultimately the choice is and should be hers. What happens next should be between her and her doctor.
I think that people should just stay in their lane, do what works for them and mind their own business, if it does not affect them directly. Perhaps instead of people running around injecting their personal beliefs and opinions in between the legs of others, it would be best if they can come up with a solution to the growing number kids currently in foster care and those who will end up in there as well.
Whether or not a woman has an abortion, will not change the fact that there are still a lot of children in the foster homes who need homes, some are being abused on a daily basis and are feeling unwanted, not just by their parents, but by society as well.
How can a person be pro-life, and focus solely on those that are not even born yet, but still conveniently ignore the many unwanted children there are in foster homes? If these people can run around talking about how abortion is wrong, then they can talk about what they themselves are actively doing to help the unwanted children who are being abused by their birth and/or foster parents, as well as those who are currently in foster homes and orphanges.
If these people aren't willing to step up to the plate for these children, then perhaps they might want to think twice the next time they want to inject their personal opinions into something that has absolutely nothing to do with them.