Do you think this is right?

[XcapeX]

It's not a senior prom. It's a senior prom group she's in. Well..yeah..it is her senior prom but still.

Zinc, it matters a lot IMO. Not just the fact that we would be going to prom together, but rather the fact that she cares enough to go with me..and obviously she doesn't from my view.

 

[MissTake]

My nephew recently had his Prom, know I know it's not quite the same over here in the UK but.....his girlfriend and he both took a different partner, only because they had already promised to go with someone else before they got together. This to me shows maturity, respect and trust in their relationship but in your situation it's certainly a different case.
If she's only doing it out of embarrassment as a senior then she'd do better not going at all than to humiliate you, it seems strange that she's chosen two different boys to go with, which suggests there's not a rival for her affections more just the fact that she's after an older date? In a real relationship she wouldn't do this to you, she'd except things as they were.
If she is insistent on going with someone else then personally I'd ask a female friend to accompany you, it doesn't have to be someone you have the "hots" for or anything, just a partner for the evening. It's not to deliberately make your girlfriend jealous, it's to show her that you won't be put down by her actions, why should you miss out on fun, and after all if it's ok for her to do it then why can't you?
If she doesn't like it then that is where you have the dilemma, either she's selfish and trying to control you, which is certainly not a healthy relationship.....or you roll over and let her wipe her feet on your belly?
A relationship is a two way thing, both have to give and take and at your age it most certainly shouldn't be so stressful, I hope you can work this one out :great:

 

[calanau]

Just getting a few opinions here, as this is my life's real situation. I'm not asking for what to do, I'm asking as to if which side of the story is morally correct. I guess you could view either as correct, but in this situation, if this personal really cared, they would do the right thing.

SO, I am a junior and my girlfriend is a senior. We have been dating for over 8 months now and known each other for over a year and a half. We previously dated for three months a long while ago (within the year and a half) and broke up and then started dating over 8 months ago, again.

Prom isn't for a while (April-ish), but the subject is already going around. My girlfriend sent me a text, "I have good news and bad news."

Good news: We're going to the winter dance.
Bad news: She's going to prom with another guy in her grade.

Reason: It's an all senior group.

Still. It's an all senior group, but I am a junior who she has had a life-to-life relationship with (meaning that we know literally EVERYTHING about each other and get along oh so well), but she is going to prom with him. I raged to her about it and we got over it for a bit. That was a week ago.

Last night she texts me what we are going to prom together. I was so happy about it and told her how happy it made me.

An hour ago she tells me she's going to prom with Another guy because he's a senior and again, they are all going to prom in an all senior group. (Different guy than last time)

I was like "Why would you do this to me." and "Why would you do this?". She claims cause I don't get along with the senior guys, although I told her I DO (and I do mostly), since it's basketball season, we all talk and get along.

She also claims "It's not a big deal" and stuff like that.

I kept repeating "Why would you do this to me" and "How could you do this" and that stuff.

She's threatening for me to drop it, or otherwise it sounds like it could get bad.

If she doesn't go with me, I probably am going to break up with her, though this is besides the point.

What I am really asking is:

Do you think it is a legit enough reason for her to go with seniors and not me? Or go with me, her boyfriend, of 8 months, who we have a heart-to-heart relationship with?

Da girl clearly dont want u there. Dont ask her "Why are u doing this to MEEEE" lol BE A MAN! Take it like a man, go to ur room think is ur girl worth a hassle and if yes then let her go with that other guy and NEVER go back to that subject again if on da other hand You think its not fair and she treats u as a toy going out for fun but dont want u to hang out with her friends in her age then go to her place, ring da door bell take a deep breath and tell her str8 in her eye she is not fair and You dont let anybody to treat you like a toy and you dont want to b with her any more! Then turn around and go home! Let her chasing you for a while not the other way around. If she indeed dont care **** it! there are plenty fish in da see remember that! 🙂

Good luck kid 😀

-- 08 Dec 2011, 20:40 --

To be honest I'm not too sure why it matters, unless you don't trust her to not go cheat on you with this other guy, you're a junior and it's a senior prom. By the sounds of things this is just trust issues....?

Totally, 100% Agree with ZINC

 

[Poopy Head]

Just getting a few opinions here, as this is my life's real situation. I'm not asking for what to do, I'm asking as to if which side of the story is morally correct. I guess you could view either as correct, but in this situation, if this personal really cared, they would do the right thing.

SO, I am a junior and my girlfriend is a senior. We have been dating for over 8 months now and known each other for over a year and a half. We previously dated for three months a long while ago (within the year and a half) and broke up and then started dating over 8 months ago, again.

Prom isn't for a while (April-ish), but the subject is already going around. My girlfriend sent me a text, "I have good news and bad news."

Good news: We're going to the winter dance.
Bad news: She's going to prom with another guy in her grade.

Reason: It's an all senior group.

Still. It's an all senior group, but I am a junior who she has had a life-to-life relationship with (meaning that we know literally EVERYTHING about each other and get along oh so well), but she is going to prom with him. I raged to her about it and we got over it for a bit. That was a week ago.

Last night she texts me what we are going to prom together. I was so happy about it and told her how happy it made me.

An hour ago she tells me she's going to prom with Another guy because he's a senior and again, they are all going to prom in an all senior group. (Different guy than last time)

I was like "Why would you do this to me." and "Why would you do this?". She claims cause I don't get along with the senior guys, although I told her I DO (and I do mostly), since it's basketball season, we all talk and get along.

She also claims "It's not a big deal" and stuff like that.

I kept repeating "Why would you do this to me" and "How could you do this" and that stuff.

She's threatening for me to drop it, or otherwise it sounds like it could get bad.

If she doesn't go with me, I probably am going to break up with her, though this is besides the point.

What I am really asking is:

Do you think it is a legit enough reason for her to go with seniors and not me? Or go with me, her boyfriend, of 8 months, who we have a heart-to-heart relationship with?

Da girl clearly dont want u there. Dont ask her "Why are u doing this to MEEEE" lol BE A MAN! Take it like a man, go to ur room think is ur girl worth a hassle and if yes then let her go with that other guy and NEVER go back to that subject again if on da other hand You think its not fair and she treats u as a toy going out for fun but dont want u to hang out with her friends in her age then go to her place, ring da door bell take a deep breath and tell her str8 in her eye she is not fair and You dont let anybody to treat you like a toy and you dont want to b with her any more! Then turn around and go home! Let her chasing you for a while not the other way around. If she indeed dont care **** it! there are plenty fish in da see remember that! 🙂

Good luck kid 😀

-- 08 Dec 2011, 20:40 --

To be honest I'm not too sure why it matters, unless you don't trust her to not go cheat on you with this other guy, you're a junior and it's a senior prom. By the sounds of things this is just trust issues....?

Totally, 100% Agree with ZINC

I agree... if this is the case then let it happen and just forget about her. Lots of fish in the sea, you have plenty of time to get another girlfriend.

 

[Nebulous]

I know I'd be pretty upset if I was in that situation. Ive always been the jealous type, I cant help it, its just my nature I suppose. I think it would drive me crazy for my girlfriend to go to prom & dance / have fun with another guy. But, I suppose I'd have no choice but to put my feelings aside and let her do what she wants. It is her prom. They are pretty meaningful to girls. You dont want to ruin it for her.

Anyway, when I was in high school, I never went to any dances & the girls I dated didnt go either. We were those 'too cool for school functions' type of kids.
:lol:

 

[Felicia]

A strong relationship isn't determined by the fights the two in it has. It's determined by two people's commitment to each other. (If you're fighting then that's a good sign something has gone wrong.)

I have to say, I completely disagree with you on this. Sure, if couples are fighting 24/7 then there's a problem. However, EVERY stable, strong couple WILL fight once in a while. If a couple has NEVER had a fight before (let's say in the first year or two of being together), then there's a problem. If couples don't fight, then they're obviously not being honest with each other and they hold back what they want to say out of fear that the other person won't be able to handle it or they'll just break up. Couples who know they can be honest with each other, even though it might cause a disagreement, are the strongest. There's no such thing as the fairy tale couple that's perfect for each other and never has a single problem.

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In terms of your prom issue, Volux:

The only legitimate reason I would understand her going to prom with another senior guy and not you, her boyfriend, is if the dance was limited to seniors only, no exceptions. Her desire to go in a "senior group" is not a good excuse.

I think it's really immature and unfair of her to tell you the two of you are going together and then an hour later change her mind. The fact that she changed her mind at all is really immature. I have to disagree with some other people, I do think you have the right to question why she's playing around with you like that.

If I were in your situation, I honestly don't know what I would do. I'd be tempted to tell my boyfriend off and forget about him.

Also, I hate to bring this up, but there's a good chance she's gonna drop you when she goes off to college anyways 🙁 I wouldn't trust her.