Relationships: Age Difference

[Victim]

What is your view on people who are in a relationship but have large age differences?

What is a OK age difference to you?

Can relationships with large age differences work?

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I find that age differences when people are older aren't as noticeable. If a 13 year old was to go out with 18 year old, it would be very wrong for many reasons, but if a 43 year old was in a relationship with a 48 year old it wouldn't be such a big thing, and i think it would go without you being shocked.

 

[PretzelCorps]

I find that age differences when people are older aren't as noticeable. If a 13 year old was to go out with 18 year old, it would be very wrong for many reasons, but if a 43 year old was in a relationship with a 48 year old it wouldn't be such a big thing, and i think it would go without you being shocked.

Yeah, I think it's really more a maturity thing, rather than just a number.

A five-year-ish difference is actually pretty common, and generally accepted (in most circles)



An ok age difference? Anything higher than 9 years is really kinda pushing it...

 

[Van1lla ™]

At work our security guard is 32 and his girlfriend is 18. Their happy and i think its alright....plus she is hot.

 

[pokbg]

It all depends on the ages... and also the people.

My partner is 15 years older then me. And we never even think of it. We met when I was 24 and him 39, and we're now going on 8 years.

If however I was 15, and him 30... I would think that VERY sick... but as it stands we were both adults when we met, so it wasn't like either of us was "taking advantage" (if you can call it that) of the other.

 

[MstWntd]

I go out with people of the general same age. Not a 5 year age difference. A year or 2 younger than me.

 

[Kuwabaratheman]

I'm 20 and engaged to a 16 year old. But she's very mature, and we're both quite serious about the relationship. I don't think 4 years is really all that much.

And since her parents seem to like me, I don't think it's a real serious problem.

Maturity is a lot more important than age. I often forget that she isn't my age or older, honestly.

 

[Winged Fantasy]

It all depends on the ages... and also the people.

My partner is 15 years older then me. And we never even think of it. We met when I was 24 and him 39, and we're now going on 8 years.

If however I was 15, and him 30... I would think that VERY sick... but as it stands we were both adults when we met, so it wasn't like either of us was "taking advantage" (if you can call it that) of the other.

Why? It's the same, your just older, it's just you have to be responsible.

 

[mumznbumpz]

It all depends on the ages... and also the people.

My partner is 15 years older then me. And we never even think of it. We met when I was 24 and him 39, and we're now going on 8 years.

If however I was 15, and him 30... I would think that VERY sick... but as it stands we were both adults when we met, so it wasn't like either of us was "taking advantage" (if you can call it that) of the other.

Why? It's the same, your just older, it's just you have to be responsible.

I don't think so, it's more of a case, these days it's considered pedophilia. But then on the other end of the scale, back a couple of 100 years ago, it would be normal for a 13 year old girl to be married with children (the husband would be a lot older).

I think a big part of it though is social acceptance, it is socially acceptable for a 30 year old woman to be married to a 45 year old man, but nobody is likely to accept a 15 year old girl going out with a 30 year old man.

 

[Sweetheart]

Like Victim said, it depends on the age of the people. There is 8 years difference in the ages of my husband and me, and when he was 16 and I was 8--it would have been a huge thing. However when I was 20 and he was 28, it wasn't such a big thing.
My neice married a guy that is 47, she just turned 34. It works now, but if she had been 15 and he was 28, there would have either been a funeral--or jail time--or both.

 

[Dante]

It really doesn't matter... If its bigger than say 10-15 years than it is a bit weird.

 

[pokbg]

It all depends on the ages... and also the people.

My partner is 15 years older then me. And we never even think of it. We met when I was 24 and him 39, and we're now going on 8 years.

If however I was 15, and him 30... I would think that VERY sick... but as it stands we were both adults when we met, so it wasn't like either of us was "taking advantage" (if you can call it that) of the other.

Why? It's the same, your just older, it's just you have to be responsible.

lol! Nope... not the same at all... that would be an adult 30 year old man dating a 15 year old girl (as in child)... which in my eyes is completely wrong.

 

[Victim]

there would have either been a funeral--or jail time--or both.

Lmfao.

 

[nancyrowina]

I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 45, I find most men (not all) aren't very mature really until they are at least 40, so I have always gone out with men at least 10 years older than me.

The most controversial was when I was 16 and I went out with a 40 year old man, which is barely legal. I don't regret it however and don't believe the man did anything wrong, it's all about the mental maturity of the people involved not their ages.

 

[dynastygal]

I think as long as the feelings are mutual and there is consent from both sides, wide age gaps are fine.

 

[Sweetheart]

I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 45, I find most men (not all) aren't very mature really until they are at least 40, so I have always gone out with men at least 10 years older than me.

The most controversial was when I was 16 and I went out with a 40 year old man, which is barely legal. I don't regret it however and don't believe the man did anything wrong, it's all about the mental maturity of the people involved not their ages.

Until you are legal in the eyes of the law--it's not about mental maturity--he can go to jail. There's a reason that young girls are called "jail bait".

 

[dynastygal]

Technically, he can only go to jail if a) he had had sex with her and b) it was known that he had by the police.

 

[~Diva~]

Well, I'm in a relationship with a man 21 years older than me. We've been in it for over two years now, and even though we have our problems, I'm happy with him. I met him when I was 27 and he was 48, so there really should be no problem with that.

 

[Dannio]

at the end of the day age is nothing but a number.

BUT

if a -18 year was to go out with someone around the age of 40+ i find that wrong. But if someone was 18+ going out with a 30 year old i guess that ent bad

 

[Silvershark]

It doesn't bother make any difference to me as long as both are above the legal age.

My other half is 15 years older than I am and it doesn't matter ~razz~

 

[+kingzai]

I don't think age haves anything to do with it, if 2 people are happy togeather then whatever, talking about adults here, but if it's minors we're talking about then it depends on the ages of both of them and how the parents of both feel about it and such...