Were you spanked when you were little?
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Taz said:
I'm not either, but it's the same thing, hitting is hitting. My mum didn't teach myself or my brother any discipline, we didn't make her life hell. There's other ways to teach your kids they are wrong apart from abusing them. I feel sorry for your kids if and when you have any.
ya I believe its fine. I was spanked a few times when I was younger and it made me straighten out and I turned out fine now that Im older. You see all these crazy kids these days that parents dont discipline and they wonder why there kids are acting the way they do....start disciplining/punishing your kids more and they will straighten up. No you dont need to spank them everytime but some kind of punishment will do the trick.
Yes, I was spanked when I was younger. I feel it is perfectly fine if that's the way the parent or guardian so chooses for discipline. Personally, when I am a parent, I don't think I would spank my children. It's not my thing. Getting spanked straightened me out and was actually even a learning tool for me. The effectiveness of discipline styles will really depend on the child. Sometimes just a simple getting on to won't do, and you have to resort to spanking.
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Light smack on the tush != abuse, stop exaggerating.Antarctic said:
Taz said:
How are they being spoilt if they are not smacked? Just because i don't want to hit my kids doesn't mean they get everything they want.
Hobbies230 said:
If i walked out on the street, saw you on the street, smacked you on the ass, you would either have me up for sexual harrasment or assault, how is smacking a child any different to this?
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Also, where do we draw the line? We can't say that if you hit your kid with THIS amount of force, it's punishment, but if you hit your kid with THIS amount of force, it's child abuse. That's impossible.Antarctic said:
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By that logic, children shouldn't be put in time out either because do we see adults doing that? Nope. You don't, you can't discipline a child the same way as an adult, and vice versa.Antarctic said:
No it's not. You're saying that when my parents, who would never and have never done anything to seriously harm myself or my siblings either physically or emotionally because they cherish us like any loving parents would, gave me a quick smack on the ass because I wouldn't listen to them was child abuse? Hell no it wasn't. All it did was leave a mere sting on my cheeks for nothing more than a few minutes. It didn't emotionally scar me, didn't cause anything remotely close to permanent damage. It was effective, though, and it didn't just teach me to not get caught. My parents rarely spanked me, so I'm not saying that that was their only punishment, but that combined with all of their other lessons, punishments, or whatever effectively taught me that what I must have been doing was wrong.Snobothehobo said:
So, if you're implying that any amount of physical punishment is child abuse then damn would there be a lot of children living in orphanages while their loving parents are locked away behind bars. There is is a difference between spanking and beating a child.
Hobbies230 said:
I'm not saying you should discipline a child the same way as a Adult, simply showing you that there is no difference when hitting a adult and child, by all means i agree with putting them in time out or sending them to their rooms, theres no abuse involved at all.
Most of you seem stuck in your ways, it may be in America's culture, i dunno.
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It is American culture. Americans think they're right about everything and are unwilling to listen to anybody else by nature. 😛 Good thing I'm from Honduras.Antarctic said:
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Excuse me? I haven't moved from my stance, so that's means I'm stuck? Again, going by your logic I can say the same for you - you haven't changed your stance, so you're obviously a close-minded fool.Antarctic said:
I'm perfectly open to everyone else's opinion, but for you to insist that spanking is the same as abuse is absolutely ludicrous.
I was spanked maybe once or twice then my parents realized it didn't work with me. I can take pain. They then had to 'hurt my feelings' to make realize what I did was wrong. I do however believe in spanking, but it doesn't work with everyone.
Excessive spanking may be considered abuse, but when it's just the occasional spanking and it's maybe once or twice, then I don't think it's abuse.
Excessive spanking may be considered abuse, but when it's just the occasional spanking and it's maybe once or twice, then I don't think it's abuse.
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Hobbies230 said:
I'm far from close minded, i am probably one of the most open minded on this forum, but why would i move from my stance from not smacking my children to doing so? If it's anybody who should be thinking of changing its you.
Spanking is the same as abuse, no matter how you put it or try to swing it.
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Antarctic said:
In other words, "My opinion is a fact, so of course I won't change my stance.
But I still keep an open mind."
Seriously, I could go to the Flat Earth Society forums and get a more sensible, less pompous argument.
But what do I know, I'm probably too emotionally scarred from all of that horrid, irreparable abuse that I suffered as a child to know any better.
Taz said:
Lol, you bring the worst arguments into this forum, you keep comparing spanking with something completely different.
The reason people keep doing it is because they think it's right, and their parents think they have the right to hit their kids because they think they own them.
But the thing is, Hitting Children with a cane, paddle and a open hand used to be allowed in schools, and it's not anymore, times change, and it's time to get with the times and stop practicing your medieval methods.
The majority of people do not agree with spanking, at least in my country.
I feel that it is discipline. With a lot of the reasoning used here, you could argue that yelling at your child is verbal abuse. It's actually sort of surprising that I take this stance considering who I am, but sitting in a high school, I feel that kids need more discipline being raised. I mean, I personally think there should be leniency, but many parents have gone too far with it.
The negative connotation you are adding -- by using phrases such as "abusing children" -- makes it seem that you children will be scarred for life. I'm an honors student, and as a young child I was occasionally spanked. And nearly every student peer in the same honors program, that I know of, was spanked (we had a class discussion fairly recently).
The negative connotation you are adding -- by using phrases such as "abusing children" -- makes it seem that you children will be scarred for life. I'm an honors student, and as a young child I was occasionally spanked. And nearly every student peer in the same honors program, that I know of, was spanked (we had a class discussion fairly recently).
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